DIMENSIONS OF LOVE

•PASSION : There is no love if it cannot be expressed in passion.  Passion is desire or enthusiasm for something or someone.  Compelling desire.
The prove that you are passionate about someone or something is pursuit. When u love something you pursue it.  Psalm 8:3. In pursuing God you must be able to throw shame down.

• COMMITMENT. commitment  is the willingness to give your time, yourself, your energy to something or someone you believe.  A state or quality of been dedicated. An engagement or obligation to someone or something that restrict freedom of action.  Irrespective of what you  are going through,  you won't deny JESUS.

•PLEASURE: it means Delight,  gratification.  The satisfaction derived from what is to ones likening. Psalm 16:11. Irrespective the challenges you are facing in your work with God,  you must derive pleasure.  The same thing is applicable to our relationships. "Your pursuit for everything must make you laugh one day". Are you deriving satisfaction from your pursuit.

•SACRIFICE : Giving up something you consider valuable for the sake of someone or a better cause.
Is sacrifice involve in your service with God, commitment to your growth both physically and spiritually. Is there any sacrifices for your home? The sacrifices to pray during the night. A true shepherd lays down.  What are you laying down for your wife,  husband,  children,  those in need,  the body of Christ. Ephesian3:18. When you look at the passion of God towards us,  we should understand what it caused HIM to give his only begotten us...

BED UNDEFILED I 

Memorise: Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4

Read: Proverbs 5:15-21(KJV) 

  ¹⁵ Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.
¹⁶ Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
¹⁷ Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee.
¹⁸ Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
¹⁹ Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
²⁰ And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
²¹ For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all his goings.

Bible in one year: Psalm 32-35, Matthew 22:23-46
Hymnal: Sing hymn 17

Message:-

“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.” 1^st Corinthians 6:18

The above verse of scripture states God’s views on sexual immorality, which should be taken very seriously by every wise person. The only institution in which God permits sexual relationships is marriage. For this reason, the Holy Spirit says in Hebrews 13:4:

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”

To the Almighty God who created it, marriage is honourable. Today’s Bible reading enjoins us to gratefully enjoy sexual relations as one of the benefits of holy matrimony. We must however be content to enjoy sexual relations with marriage only. It is an act of ingratitude, insatiability and greed for a person to go after sexual partners other than his or her spouse. This act grieves God’s heart just as it grieved Him when Adam and Eve abandoned all the other fruits they could have eaten in the garden, only to eat that which was forbidden (Genesis 3:11).

It is interesting that when God gave Eve to Adam, He gave her to him completely and wholeheartedly. We can imagine a marriage ceremony in which God walks Eve down the aisle and hands her over to Adam “to have, to hold, to cherish and to enjoy.” God’s desire is for spouses to enjoy each other, which is why Proverbs 5:19 says:

“Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.”

What a generous, loving and pleasant Father we have in God, who has blessed us with all things to enjoy (1^st Timothy 6:17). In as much as He has given us all things to enjoy, we must enjoy them with the boundaries He has set in His word. Having been good to you by giving you that sweet spouse, He is posing this question in Proverbs 5:20 to you as food for thought:

“And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger.”

The stranger here is that extramarital sex partner. Beloved, don’t be an ingrate; the consequences will be grievous for you. Hold tight to the partner God has blessed you with and enjoy him or her only.

Prayer Point

Father, I thank You for giving me the privilege of marriage. Please help me to keep my marriage holy as You designed it to be, in Jesus’ Name.

ARE YOU HABITABLE FOR GOD? 

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"Depart you, depart you, go out from them, touch no unclean thing; go out of the midst of her; be you clean, that bear the vessels of the LORD" - Isaiah 52:11

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Before God occupies a man's life, there are certain conditions he must fulfill. These conditions are separation, consecration and possession. 

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If you're to house the presence and glory of God, you must depart from the world, that is, be separated from her. All the things that are in the world are unclean before God because they are not His (1 John 2:15-17).

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When God called Abram, the first instruction He gave him was to get out of his country, kindred and from his father's house (Gen. 12:1). Your body that houses your spirit and soul must be separated from the world. God can't use anyone who is still entangled with the world system and practise. 

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Be separated from the world's way of dressing, music, fashion, conduct, belief and principles. Why many of us do not house the Spirit of God in His full expression is because we are still holding onto the things of the world. 

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The unclean things of this world are not men, women, sex, cars, houses, properties or wealth but the lust and pride thereof. 

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Your obedience to the still small voice of the Holy Spirit will enable you to depart from the world. This is grace at work in you that teaches you to deny ungodliness and worldly lust but do you obey? 

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Instead of doing everything everyone is doing in the world or using everything that the world offers, have you asked the Holy Spirit to guide you into all truths about them? 

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Dearly beloved, you can only be an habitation for God if you allow the Holy Spirit to work in you but the more you grieve Him, you'll only remain a vessel unto dishonor.

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WeekStarter!
I pray you will understand that the enemy who knocked you down...knows you are not knocked out. That is why he keeps watching you from a distance to see what you will do when you get up.  It’s time to get up stronger! It’s time for your comeback! It’s time to win! Stay absolutely connected to Jesus. #TakingTerritories

How do you know if this man (or woman) is the right one or not?
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She asked.
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My response.
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The ability to discern if a man is right or wrong is beyond the human senses. My sista and broda, somethings dey wey your eyes no fit see or know if they are right or wrong. Wetin good for ya face today fit no good tomorrow.
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For instance, you fit buy a good shoe today and after you don wear am for some days, you no go like am again because e dey pain you for leg, you go come leave am go buy another one. But when it comes to knowing the right person to marry, you must examine their suitability beyond feelings or physical factors.
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The kain wedding wey some people dey do dis days no be for here, later you go come hear say dey wan divorce or you go hear say bro don get anoda babe for outside. Worapun? No choose dat man or woman because dey fine for face alone o!
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Knowing the right person to marry cannot be done the way you buy shoes in the store. Because marriage is not man’s institution, you need to consider the role of the One who knows the right person for you.
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See ehn, I can give you a long list of signs you should consider in that bae or boo to make you choose right, the best that these methods will do for you is to only help you choose based on the wisdom of men but it will not help you see in the light of God’s wisdom.
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Sebi you kuku know say the foolishness of God is wiser than the wisdom of men.
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If you want to have a good marriage, you need to dig deep into the content of their soul and spirit. This is where the issue of trusting in God comes into play.
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Abeg read Proverbs 3:5-7
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You need to prayerfully, patiently and carefully check him to ascertain if he is the right one.
On the issue of prayer, you must pray yourself o otherwise you go enter one chance if you only depend on MOGs to pray for you. Do you know the spiritual condition of that MOG you told to pray for you? Abeg, wetin do you own mouth wey you no fit talk to Baba God?
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MOG or prophet no go follow you enter the marriage, na wedding bus stop dem go follow you reach, and if yawa gas inside your marriage, dey go tell you to endure or sort yourself. It is better to prayerfully know if he or she is right for you and later go to MOG or prophet for confirmation.
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Abeg, no go meet dem if you never pray. Aside the fact that there are fakes and original, you need to hear from God yourself first! God never go sabbatical leave, na you dey do something wey make hin far from you. You fit geht close to God as you choose to be.
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If you wan know if that bro or sista na your bones or flesh of your flesh, you need to be patient. No rush! It takes patience to marry right and it takes patience to have a good marriage. No rush to tell dat broda say you go marry am even if you don know say na d one.
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My man, no tell dat fine babe to marry you if you never do you calculation well well?
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Never allow pressure from within or without push you. You need patience to pray and be sure and confirm from one or two persons for the truth to be established. You even need patience to study the person small after you don do your assignment in the place of prayer.
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Bros, don’t go and rush to that sister and propose to her if you have not at least been friends with her. You wan marry stranger ni?
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Now, make I yarn you small gist why you need to be careful. Some bro or sister go waka come your domot as being single when you no know say dem be double. Some people fit deceive the devil wey deceive Eve for the garden so tey you no go no say dey don marry.
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And shey you know say some people can pretend so tey you go think say dey are nice and caring, na when dey won propose dey go dey form gentleness or holier than thou but when they enter marriage lai dis, you go see their true colour.
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Now make I speak small grammar.
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On another approach to know if they are the right person, does he or she buy into the same purpose you are pursuing in life? If not, do not consider them to be the right one. You need to discover God’s purpose for your life to know this. Eve was made for Adam on the premise of purpose; sex, making babies or living together as couples were not in the foremind of God at the initial.
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Do not base your determination of a man or woman being right on mundane things such as how tall, dark, rich and handsome he is or how well he makes you laugh, he being caring and the likes or that because she is beautiful, sexy and endowed...marriage is more than that.
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Lastly, work on yourself to be the right person. You can never know the right person if you have not made yourself the right person. When you have made yourself the right person, then you can look into the content of their lives to see if they fit into what is right for you. This is not about having unreasonable preference but being realistic and it is based on purpose oriented factors.
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Asides checking their character and attitude, do not take the PLACE OF GOD and DESTINY COMPATIBILITY lightly.
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I hope this helps?
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2018

  Relationship  Tips

Listen friend,  not everyone you come across are compatible with you, time tells if they can tolerate and stay with you to the end..  Remember relationship is totally different from Marriage," Two different entities", when you get married the reality will be done on you. Don't prepare for the relationship alone,  but prepare for the marriage.

©2018 Olugbenga Babafemi

3 Signs That Shows You're Eating The Forbidden Fruit in Your Relationship?
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If only I had known how bitter the effect would be down my throat, I wouldn't have been tempted to taste how sweet it was - Anonymous
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For every action, there's a cause and effect. Many don't think through the consequences of their action before they carry out the act; it is after they have committed the act before they regret it afterwards.
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Do you remember those times you wished you hadn't done what you did, only to blame yourself or regret it?
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The ability to do what you want in life is limited if there was no Creator. Because you were created, there are certain acts that are forbidden in life and your relationship. There are lots of 'forbidden fruit' many had eaten and are still eating in their relationship.
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For every forbidden fruit you eat, be prepared to feel the pain down your throat. Most people are still nursing the consequence of the forbidden fruit they ate years ago.
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Ask Adam and Eve, if they had known that been separated from God, becoming a vagabond, living outside His presence with more hustling and toiling would become their fate in life, they wouldn't have ate the fruit He forbade them.
Do you know that there is a 'forbidden fruit' in that relationship you must not eat? Let me remind you.
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1. Tolerating sexual immorality
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As a teenager or singles, it's forbidden for you to kiss your friend of the opposite sex who you are not married to. Kissing your family member is not the same as kissing someone you're erotically in love with.
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You can call me names but it doesn't remove God's verdict on the matter. What happens when you kiss someone you had a feeling for? You may predict the journey of a kiss but you never can tell its final destination.
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You can even 'secretly' engage in a kiss but it doesn't stop there, in fact, it's a journey of curiosity that leads to immorality. What happens to your hands and mind when you start kissing? You surely don't need a 3D glass to see the outcome.
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Anything that has to do with immorality in that relationship is forbidden. Your boyfriend or girlfriend is not your husband or wife. You only have the moral right to do that which is godly to whoever you're married to. And it doesn't matter what the society calls it, it's wrong.
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God won't judge you by what the media told you, you'll be judged by His word. There are many kisses which ended in sexual intimacy. Do not start the fire you won't be able to quench.
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2. Sexual intimacy
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Marital sex is the only permissive sex that God allows, the likes of premarital or extramarital sex is forbidden. The society throws several options to choose as singles or married and sin has been re-branded with catchy names. Some call it a fling, a one night stand, flirting or what have you.
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Advertorials told you to stay faithful to a partner that you're not married to or have 'protected' sex with your partner. What makes sexual intimacy safe and protected is when it's done in marriage, not before or outside.
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Some married men are of the opinion that having sexual relationship with their wife alone will be boring but it's good to test many waters. You'll be told that having side chicks is good in case your wife or husband refuses you sex. As 'good' as it may sound, it's a journey into destruction.
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One thing about the forbidden fruit is that the devil makes it look as something you should desire, a fruit that would make you 'wise' and is good for food.
Satan has a way of making sin look palatable but he hides its consequence. The devil hides the consequences of sin but God reveals it to you through His word so that you can choose between life and death. Sadly, the devil will package death in a fancy covering while you think it's life.
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Another hard fact about the forbidden fruit is that you won't only suffer the consequences, your unborn children partakes in it. Ask Judah about his encounter with Dinah and see the effect on David and his children. You can choose your sin but you can never determine its consequence.
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3. Violating what is right
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To determine what is right is beyond the opinions of men or your personal opinion, it has to do with the word of God. Obeying anyone to disobey God is a violation of the right thing. Are you violating what is right according to God's word in your life and relationships? Doing that is eating the forbidden fruit.
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However, the consequences of eating the forbidden fruit is death - physical, spiritual and eternal separation from God. There's room for repentance (confess your sins, ask for His forgiveness and forsake them) if you have eaten it in the past because He doesn't want you to perish.
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2018

          THE BLESSING OF INTIMACY

HOTSPOT
#COPIED

I was using my brother's hotspot to install an app on my tablet, after sometime while the download was still on, I went outside with the tablet and the download stopped. I forgot totally that I was using his connection and to be effective, I needed to stay close within certain range. The moment I went out of range, I lost the signal and the download. The benefit of the download was mine but the connection was his.
The connection was governed by closeness. I had the privilege but left the coverage. You cannot sustain transmission in transgression.
God is the fastest and surest hotspot; your download in destiny is secured if you stay in communion with him and live within scriptural range. There are places you will go and God will not switch on his data of inspiration for you.

There are relationships you get into and the connection to certain grace would be shut down against you. Lot went to Sodom and was reduced to his boxers even though it was wealth that afforded him the relocation.

A faithful, fruitful and truthful father in faith is a hotspot. There are applications of transformation that you cannot build up if you're not properly brought up. There are nuptial applications you cannot download in marriage if you don't have a functional father with successful marital data.

 There are characters you cannot buy off the shelf of education if you lack some parental upbringing. There are foundational truths you cannot download in ministry if you are out of godly fatherly hotspot.
Some friends are hotspots; they extend megabytes of courage and commitment for you to download ideas and strategies on the tablets of vision. You don't willfully hurt your hotspots if you want to stay connected for fuel.
There are hotspot friends who would link you to your helpful download sites. Stay within the range of honour, honesty and humility. Don't take your hotspot for granted through "familiar" spirit.
If you noticed some download has stopped in your life, check your hotspots! Its the month of favour

MUSTARD SEED FAITH'

.''And Jesus said to them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say to you, if you have faith as a grain of mustard seed, you shall say to this mountain, Remove here to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible to you. However this kind goes not out but by prayer and fasting'' - Matthew 17:20-21.Faith like a mustard seed is not like the great faith Jesus talked about in Matthew 8:8.

 Great faith requires a word from the Lord which a man believes but mustard seed kind of faith is in the saying (verbal declaration and it is enhanced through prayer and fasting...There is a correlation between mustard seed faith and prayer and fasting. Prayer and fasting that is properly done releases a spiritual energy in your spirit man, hereby giving you the authority and boldness to speak to any mountain and nothing shall be impossible.

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How can I have this faith? Live a prayer and fasting life. You can be faced with mountains at any time, the best to do is to be prepared before hand. If the disciples had been engaging in prayer and fasting, they would have been able to speak to the man's mountain.

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You do not prepare for battle in the midst of battle, you prepare for battle before battle comes.

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Over-feeding the flesh with all that it needs will make a man to be filled with unbelief, fear and worry. But when you starve or deprive it of all it craves for and engage in prayer and fasting, you will be filled with the energy to demonstrate a mustard seed faith.

Mustard seed faith sees a mountain (difficulty, problem, challenge etc) and speaks to it. Confessing positive words is not the same thing as speaking to the mountain.

                   

              The Greatest Distraction You Must Avoid
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Quite a lot of people are putting the cart before the horse while they think that's the most important thing they should do in life. Many are busy chasing pleasure when a whole lot is at stake concerning their lives. 
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Unfortunately, the society we live in has made relationship, marriage and sexual intimacy to be the most sought-after things you must pursue in life. Even many relationship counselors on social media made it an important aspect of their messages. 
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Don't get me wrong, it's necessary but it's not that important as we place much emphasis on it. How can you learn so much about sex, marriage and how to attract the right partner when the most important aspect of your life - your relationship with God is nonexistent? Whether you agree with me or not, it's the greatest distraction in life. Avoid it.
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There are two categories of people in life who will be distracted. They are; 
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1. Teenagers who are pursuing...
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Love relationship. 
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I felt I came from a different world when I see lots of teenagers around me and those who just escaped their teenage years investing so much of their lives and destinies on relationship when they haven't discovered what life is worth living for.
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I'm like, did I ever passed the teenage years? Of course, I was once a teenager but thank God relationship wasn't in my agenda then. Thank God for mom's prayer!
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Dear teenager, let me tell you the gospel truth, pursing a love relationship is the greatest distraction you can ever give yourself. Do you know what it takes to maintain a love relationship? It's far from what you watch in Zee world or in Telemundo. 
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Relationship is for the mature - emotionally, spiritually, financially, mentally and morally.
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Don't let anyone deceive you, you don't need a boyfriend or girlfriend relationship now that you're young. Don't waste the morning period of your life on unnecessary things. All that you need is to discover God's purpose for your life and to know God personally, intimately and experientially.
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Don't be a church goer or a church member who lacks recognition in heaven but has an identity in hell. Get serious with God. 
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There are many things you need to discover about God that a love relationship will be a total distraction. Don't be religious, have an intimate relationship with God. 
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Life becomes very easy when you're sold out to God and you're exploring an inexplicable depth of intimacy with Him. Who tells you you'd be lonely or it would be boring? 
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When you have an intimate relationship with God, it'll become very easy for you to know who to marry without having to read 35 Ways of Attracting Mr. Right or Avoiding Miss Wrong. 
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I may have once posted that on social media (How to attract Mr. Right or avoid Miss Wrong) but now I have repented. What you need as a teenager is to establish your root in God so that you can live a better and more fulfilling life than your parent.
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"Mofe Lowo Ju Daddy Mi" is more than a song, you must pay the price to be connected to God and discover His purpose for your life.
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2. Looking for whom to marry when you don't know...
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God's purpose for your life.
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Marriage was created for the fulfillment of God’s purpose, it wasn't created solely for pleasure - sex, making babies and the likes. The only way you can get the best out of your marriage is when you discover God's purpose for your life and marry someone that suits that purpose. 
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Majority of people marry for pleasure or a purpose other than God's. If you don't know God's purpose for your life and you're fulfilling it, you'll be distracted from knowing it if marriage is the only thing you're chasing. 
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Hear these facts: you will abuse God's purpose for marriage when you marry without knowing God's purpose for your life. Your marriage will be a mess when you marry someone that doesn't know God's purpose for his or her life.
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The most important thing in life is to seek God early and find Him. Jesus affirmed this in Matthew 6:33. You'll be distracted in life if the mundane things are what you're chasing after. How can you become all that God wanted you to be when you don't know why you're here or you don't even have a personal relationship with Him?
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No wonder the devil is not moved when we organize more of marriage seminars and conferences so far it doesn't draw men back to their Creator. It's good to marry right, trust me, but they are among the other things that God promised those who seek Him.
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Have you prayerfully discovered who you are, why you're here and where you're going to? Do you know those things that you can do but they're lying fallow in you while you're busy running after who to marry and who not to marry? 
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Who are you seeking: Mr. Right or Miss Perfect or God? Don't be distracted! Seek God first and you'd discover that it's easy to get those things that seem difficult that the society preaches so much about. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2018