Truth#4

I Love You’ Is More Than a Sentence

Love is not in word or lip, it is in deed and in truth. Anyone can say ‘’I love you’’ but
not everyone can mean it. It is cheap to say ‘’I love you’’, but it is difficult to mean
it. ‘’I love you’’ contained three words that forms a sentence but the truth of love is that
it can never be captured in one statement (1 Cor. 13). There are several ‘’I love you’’ that
are products of feelings but very few are practical demonstration of selfless service that
stems out of a sincere motive.
A man can beat a woman mercilessly and afterwards, apologize, care for her and hug
her tightly and say ‘’I love you’’; but this doesn’t mean he won’t do it some other time
when he is angry. Is this love?
It is easy to profess love but it takes determination to express
it when your partner is unlovable. You may not need to
verbalize your love to your spouse or friend, it will be clearly
seen through your act of selfless, sacrificial and unconditional
love which you timely express to them.

 Personal Evaluation...
• Do I mean it when I say ‘’I love you’’ or I say it to have my way or tease others?

                               Truth#3
Love Is Unconditional, Sacrificial and Selfless
When there is a reason why you love, a day will come when there will be no reason
to love.
Love is unconditional but the likes of feelings, lust and infatuation has conditions
attached to it. ‘’I love her because she is’’; ‘’I love him because he makes me feel’’. These
are reasons why some people love and when those reasons cease to exist, their supposed
love will die a natural death.
Mind you, love is not about you, it is not about what you want
or what you want your partner to be; it is about giving yourself
to whom you love. If your claim of love is all about you, you
are selfish and self-centred. Love is not about what I can get,
it is about what I can give.
And if it does not cost you to love, you will never be committed to love.
However, love can only stand the test of time when it is selfless, sacrificial and
unconditional but feelings lacked these.

     Questions :
• Do I have conditions attached to why and who I love?
• Am I selfless or selfish in expressing love?
• Have I reasonably gone out of my way to express love?

       Truth about love

              Truth #2
 Love Is a Decision

Do you remember what God did to the whole world in the time of Noah? Do you
remember what led to His provocation?
Because the thoughts of the hearts of men were wicked and his imagination were
continually evil, He wiped out the first human race but in the New Testament, in spite of
man’s rebellion, He decided so much to love the world (John 3:16).
If your reason for not to love is as a result
of the evil (pain, hurts, heart break,
infidelity, wickedness) that had been
done to you in the past, you are not
obeying His command.
How are you different from the Gentiles who love those who love them and hate those
who hate them if your love is affected by a bad situation? I know it is not easy to do
but we all need His grace to do His will. And this is why you need God to express true
love.
Love is a decision. You must make up your mind to love that special person in your life
and family but when it comes to relationship, you can choose who you relate with. This
is not pride or class but carefulness. You must make the decision to love God and your
neighbour, come rain or shine because indecision makes you unstable. But be careful of
who you decide to love because every choice has its consequence.

Question?

• Have I decided to love or my love is conditional?