Men cheats. Women cheats also. It's not about who does it more or less, it's about preventing this from happening to you or someone you love. Cheating seems to be one of those unforgivable issues in marriage.
According to survey, three major issues that has been known to be the most threatening matter to issues in marriage are financial challenges, sexual and third party influence.
Money matters can be sorted out when you are able to make more money or you have a partner who is understanding and is contented.
Third party influence can be dealt with when you apply the right principle, you taste every advise before you swallow it hook, line and sinker and you divorce proof your marriage through the external means with which it can comes from.
But on the matter of sex, it's a big threat in itself. It's either one partner is not being satisfied and goes outside to get more or the other complains of it being too much and the dissatisfied partner seeks solace elsewhere.
All these can still be sorted out when you get a good counselor or sex therapist to counsel you two but the major challenge with illicit sex, why people cheat without blackmailing any gender is tied to FAMILIARITY and the MONOTONOUS VIEW of staying with one partner for the rest of your life.
Let me illustrate this better.
Do you know that you'd get bored with eating the same chocolate over and over for many years? It'll lose its flavor and freshness in your taste because your body is used to it.
It is on this premise that many consider cheating or justify it to be right and some women have been made to believe that men are polygamous in nature...but in the beginning, it was not so.
Whether you are a man on the pulpit or you sit on the pew, being religious doesn't solve this major issue behind cheating but that you embrace self control, be determined, be contented, count the cost and possess a transformed mindset.
But the deception of the devil through worldly philosophy is to make you believe that the grass is greener at the other end. And the truth is that all penis and vagina are the same. The sizes and shapes may differ but it's the same pleasure they give.
The body may be different, you might get a different style other than that which your partner can give you, the moaning can be louder or the experience different but in the real sense, you don't go beyond cloud nine.
Lack of contentment will make you feel its better outside. Your friends might make you feel there's an added advantage when you go extra but the consequence is always regrettable.
Only a fool make a mock of sin.
You can be educated in human wisdom but yet remain a fool when it comes to extramarital sex. Scientists do not have the right fact about sex. Worldly philosophers are not the absolute authority over sex as to where it can be done but God who created man and his instinct to have sex.
The only way to curb this matter of illicit sex which can affect anyone is to have the fear of God. The fear of God makes you to run away from the appearance of evil, embrace self-control, stay faithful and influences your mindset.
Yes it is true that having sex with one partner can be boring in the long run, but is it boring to take water everyday for the rest of your life? Inasmuch as taking soda or eating junks is consequential to your health, cheating is very dangerous to your life and to your generation yet unborn.
Do you know that a man can have a beautiful wife and still be pulling down the pant of their house help? A woman can have a good husband, who's rich and handsome but the gate man is going in and out of her Holy of holiest without oga’s knowing. Lack of contentment and communication is the problem.
If he or she is not doing it well, especially in marriage, politely discuss about it and how you want to enjoy it.
Illicit sex (premarital or extramarital) allows the devil to invade lives and destroy marital destinies. Illegitimate children who lack adequate parental upbringing are products of extramarital sex amidst other terrible things it causes.
Count the cost before you think it's a profitable affair. You might escape the consequences but your unborn generation will not. In fact you cannot escape what they call the law of Karma because whoever breaks the hedge, the serpent shall bite.
Have you made up your mind to stay faithful to your partner come what may or you think playing away matches is permissible? It's a personal matter that you must settle because the devil or the society will make you see one thousand and one logical reasons why you can cheat on your spouse.
See, her pointed breast will become flaccid one day. His six packs abs may end up becoming a potbelly. You just have to be contented.
That a thing is logical does not mean it's true according to God's standard. Abraham dabble into extramarital affair and it cost his generation unborn. David ventured into it and it ruined his flawless walk with God. Solomon became an icon on this matter and his heart was turned away from God.
Before you consider cheating as an option in marriage or prior to it, count the cost, think on the consequences and what it would do to you.
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