In the family of animals, the male species are usually the dominant animals. They exhibit characters that makes them to rule the family such as fierceness, bravery, strength, toughness and the ability to protect. For instance, in the pride of lions, the male lion will hunt for the prey and bring it for the cub and lioness to feed on. Based on the above qualities they possess, they are fit to protect their pride once they are fully matured. However, a young lion cannot hunt for a prey or else it will be hunted. Human being exhibit similar characteristic feature with that of the animals.
The male folks are the provider, protector, father to the children, husband to the wife and the head of his family at large. Needless to describe is the physical qualities of a man but when it comes to maturity, several factors must be considered in order to understand it. Maturity is a state of development of certain areas of a person or thing. It is a condition or requirement that must be considered in referring to a person as a man or a wife.
A person is fully grown when certain features about them has been seen or known. Maturity is not a function of age, class, achievements, endowment or post. It is the ability to handle certain challenges or pressures of life. In the case of man, maturity is seen by how he behaves, talks, relates, reasons or cope with the issues of life. Maturity is not transfered but developed over a period of time (years). There are several forms of maturity that a boy must acquire before he becomes a man. Becoming a man is not only a function of appearance or strength but the ability to be emotionally, spiritually, financially, mentally, socially and materially fit to deal with the issues of life.
A lot of us focus on maturity when it comes to the issue of marriage but maturity is needed beyond the context of marriage. Emotional maturity is the development of the mind to be able to react to the challenges dealing with it. An undeveloped mind is susceptible to cry in a tearful situation, burst into rage in a heated argument or fight in an offensive scenario. Everybody has the tendency to be angry but the ability to control one’s anger is based on his emotional maturity. A lot of people would flare up or raise their voice when there is a misunderstanding, however, fighting an argument during a heated discussion will not give one a victory over it.
A matured man must be able to control is anger and not to transfer aggression to others and also work on his mood or feelings when he is heated up. This is why it’s often said that men, not boys must have lots of patience when dealing with their wives. Life is more than the physical form we have. It has a spiritual side to everything about it. Whether you like it or not, it is only those who understand the spiritual sides of life that will be successful in it. A man is meant to be spiritually matured in other to handle life’s issue. He must be connected to a supernatural power so that he can have a direction to his life and control any spiritual challenges that may befall him. The children of this world are wise in their own counsel that they would not joke with the issue of spirituality, this is why they join occultic group for power, influence and fame.
God is the ultimate source of spiritual power. Matured men must have access to God through Christ so that they can fulfill their role spiritually in their family and for themselves. Men, it is sheer ignorance to aspire that your spouse should be spiritually matured than you. Doing this will make you give the lordship of your life and family over to her and you’ll end becoming frustrated when spiritual issues manifest. God designed the hierachy that a man should be the head in ALL areas. Be the man. Pay the price to be spiritually developed and you’ll be surprised to see how you dominate circumstances in life. Boys are financially dependent on their parent or anyone that can offer them monetary assistance. Financially matured men are dependent on their profitable business yield or their multiple streams of income. He does not spend more than he earns and end up becoming a debtor. It is immaturity to mismanage one’s finances or live an extravagant lifestyle. It takes a matured man to live within his income, save and still finance capital projects. Mental maturity is the ability to possess a developed mind which helps in decision-making and giving fair judgments. This is often the necessity for wisdom. A man needs to have enough mental power so that he can fare well in life and deal with several people or issues. Wisdom is the princpal thing and you need to acquire it. The significant difference between a man and a boy is wisdom. Men are mentally matured while boys are not. Man is a social animal. His ability to relate with one another freely is needed in his relationship. Boys are not social. They don’t believe in recreation or keeping friends. They find it difficult to get along easily with people. They are not humorous, friendly or romantic because of their “over seriousness”. They believe so much on work and work. It takes a matured man to unwind, go on a date, see movies at the cinema, go to the beach, spend time with his friends, wife and family. Men does not need to be “too” social but a bit of it would make him relate well with people. Finally, a man is matured when he has the basic necessities of life. Things like a good or well furnished accommodation, probably a car or a good wardrobe defines the material worth of a man. Boys live in their father’s house or squat with friends. A man needs shelter for himself and his family. A comfortable shelter is needed to be in a man’s possession so that he can convinently perform his other responsibilities in life. It takes mental, spiritual, financial, social and material maturity to be a man. Although, what it takes to be a man is not limited to maturity alone. However, maturity plays the major role. Do not be worried if some aspect of your life has not been fully developed, it takes time to be transformed from boyhood to manhood. Get busy with life instead of running after frivolities. A man must be able to protect, provide and possess some certain things of life that would ensure his dominance. It is not the size of the manhood that defines a man but by his level of maturity.
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