3 Things Christian Sisters Must Never Joke With in a Man
While it's not a crime to have what you call "taste" as a Christian sister, it's absurd when your taste becomes your thirst for in a man while you downplay the sine qua non. There are many whose carnal tastes or preference has led them into the wrong relationship or marriage. Be careful.
If you're in a relationship with a man, I'll assume you've sought God's face before you accept his proposal, watch out for these things before you take it a step further. Brothers should also take note.
Mind you, a proposal or an engagement can be broken, don't tie yourself in a destructive relationship in the name of getting married, or "I want to be in a relationship."
1. His relationship with God.
The first association Adam ever had was a quality relationship with God. It was so deep to the point that whatever he called the animals is what God had in mind to have called them.
A man who doesn't have a quality relationship with God is not a good match for you, I don't care how much he cares about you. If you marry a man who doesn't have his head as Jesus, you'd be forced to submit to whatever becomes his head.
Take it or leave it, a man who doesn't love God, cannot love you better. It is from the outflow of his love for God that he'd express genuine love to you.
See, being active in church duty is not a sign of spirituality; if you're into God, you'd easily discern between fake and original brothers. But when you're carnally minded, you'd easily fall for the riffraff who parade themselves as spirikoko.
If you marry a man who doesn't have a personal relationship with God, don't be surprised when you take over the spiritual leadership of the home front. More so, whatever becomes his head will be the driver of his life, and that's what he'd treat you with.
2. The purpose he lives for
After his relationship with his Maker, check the cause or purpose he lives for. Adam never lived for himself in the garden, all that he did was for God and His glory.
A man with no purpose is a man without a focus, he will be driven by everything that drives and influences men. How terrible would that be when you're married to a man who has no sense of direction in life?
See, my sister, a man who is not helping God through the fulfillment of his divine purpose will help the devil. If you marry him, you'd also be a party to his mission. God created the woman to be a help meet for the man, what will you help him to achieve when he has no purpose to live for?
Make babies? Cook food? Mother his children? Wash his clothes? Give him sex? Are these all there is to life? Well, except you have no purpose to live for, you can go ahead with such men, but if you know there's more to life than marriage, marry a man who is fulfilling his divine assignment. It is better to marry this kind of man than to marry the one with a Lamborghini or a Ferrari.
3. His understanding of how a woman is to be treated
Now, this is the crux of the matter. Does he understand how a woman is to be treated?
A man can be spiritual, yet lacking in the knowledge of how to treat a woman amid their excesses or shortfalls. Before the Fall, Adam treated his wife dearly, but afterward, he saw her as a pain in his neck.
When has she become "the woman you gave me" as opposed to "the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh?" It was a problem with his "new" understanding.
Don't marry a man who treats women as a nonentity or an outcast. Never marry a man who thinks he does you a favor by marrying you. Some men regard women as a slave, and that their voice must not be heard. It is surprising to see some men rule their wives with an iron fist.
Watch the signs. See the red flags. Never ignore them, or think he'd change in marriage. Marriage only magnifies the tendencies in people. If he treats you with contempt before marriage, he'd become bossy in it.
Now, hear this, that he treats you tenderly before marriage doesn't mean he'd continue in that stead, some men can pretend for the devil. Never use the way he treats you as a yardstick to accept his proposal, do the needful - seek His face for direction, and conviction.
I hope you got value in these?
Don't be carried away by his physical appearance, personality impression, material possession, spiritual charisma, and his financial worth; they're not as important as his relationship with God, the knowledge and pursuit of his divine purpose, and how he's to treat you - in knowledge and honor.
All these 3 points also apply to brothers who are eyeing sisters in or outside the church. If you ignore the major, but major in the minor, you'd have yourself to be blamed.
© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2021
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