How to Break Your Addiction to Pornography, Masturbation or Secret Sexual Sin

 "In this last days, there shall an avalanche in the rate of sexual lawlessness, as such that has never been heard, and many Christians, if they're not on guard shall be victims of this end time menace" - Anonymous

Pornography, masturbation and secret sexual sin (PMS) are one of the most viable weapons of the devil to destroy young men and women in this age. If a brother or sister is not a victim of porn, they're secretly masturbating or indulging in secret sexual sin that nobody knows anything about.

Married men and women are also not spared. Because many wants to justify their ungodly desire for these, they often say, "Show me where it's written in the Bible that it is wrong." Some would even tell you that it's better to masturbate or watch porn that to do the main thing.

Whichever way you choose to justify it, I want you to know that you have been bought with a price, you will give an account of whatever you do with your body, and this body of yours is not your exclusive property - you are the temple of God.

PMS are one of the strategies of the devil to render men and women abominable before God so that he can render them unfit for His use, and petition them before God by bringing forth strong reasons they should be damned when they fail to repent.

I'm writing this to anyone who has been entangled in this yoke of bondage for years that victory awaits you, no matter how hard you have tried to quit.

Aside the medical, emotional and psychological effects of PMS, it has grievous spiritual consequences.

Understand this: The devil doesn't have access to your life unless he has gotten an advantage of you through your ignorance.

You may be a firebrand Christian brother or sister and you have been trapped in these, yet you still minister so well before God's children, know for certain that you're but a "borrowed" vessel.
 Are you a papa, mama, Christian brother or sister, but when the doors are closed, you secretly masturbate, watch porn or commit sexual sin? Repent now! God's presence and anointing does not manifest in a vessel when the carrier has been defiled.
Don't think that indulging in fornication, masturbation or pornography would retain God's presence in your life; He's only giving you an opportunity to repent. Grace and sin are two parallel lines that can never meet.

This thing called PMS has destroyed many lives and destinies, especially those whom God intend to use as His end time army to fight the god of this world. Are you a victim of any of these act? There's a way out, and it's only in Christ Jesus. No self-help or recommendations from clinical psychologist or therapist would help, they can only relieve, but cannot deliver you totally, but Jesus Christ will.
 I have been a victim of these three things I'm sharing with you several years ago, hence, what I'm about to share with you is not theory, but the practical steps I took that delivered me from it. For a start, it would seem as if it's a controllable habit to engage in PMS, but your prolong involvement in it opens the door of your life to the demons behind them.

 Consistency in a habit - whether good or bad - is a voice in the spirit realm that attracts the spirit behind such habit. You won't see the demons behind these act, but you would discover that you have an uncontrollable urge to engage in it oftentimes.
 You may be free from it today, but tomorrow, you're back in it. In fact, you might have prayed and fasted for victory but the problem would still persist. Is God too weak to deliver you? Impossible!

 There's a legal access the enemy uses to oppress you with any of those habit. For those who are ready to be delivered from this age-long captivity, you will have to do the following.

 1. If you're a Christian, rededicate your life to God now, but if you are not, then you need to give your life to Him sincerely.

 2. Identify the access points you have allowed the enemy into your life through these acts. These could be porn materials, lustful thoughts, pornography, masturbation, premarital or extramarital sex, rape, or any other sexual related sin.

 3. Genuinely repent from any of these act. Confess your sin to God, not a priest, and ask Him to cleanse you with His precious Blood by faith (1 John 1:9).

 4. Make a bold declaration of faith in the name of Jesus, closing every access point you have given to sexual related demons to invade your life (Rom. 10:10).

 5. By faith, thank God for what He has done in your life, singing praises to Him.

 6. Fellowship with God's word by filling your heart with it through meditation, memorization (recalling and recitation), and confession (Joshua 1:8, Ps. 1:1-2, Ps. 119:9,11).

 Is it that simple? Yes. But the enemy would still come to check up on you if indeed you have been delivered from this (Luke 11:24-26); but when he discovers that God and His word now occupies the throne room of your life, he will leave.

 However, when your mind is vacant or barren of His word to cast down those thoughts that would pull you back into those act, he wins. God's word will keep you secured when the devil infiltrates your heart with the urge or thought to indulge in PMS (Ps. 107:20).

 7. Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ has made you free; and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage (Gal. 5:1) Desist from anything or anyone that could restore your addiction to PMS. Be firm in your resolve to stay away from it. Stand on the word of God. Stand in the place of prayer.
Stand in the position of victory. Christ has made you free from it. Believe His word. Act on it, because whosoever the Son has made free, he or she has been free indeed. You don't need to "feel" your victory or the change He has made in your life. Your victory in Jesus is not tied to feelings, feelings are fleeting.

 Only believe! For we walk by faith, and not by sight or feelings. Before the devil destroys you completely through pornography, masturbation or secret sexual sins, STOP him now. Remember, the thief (devil) comes but for to steal, kill and destroy; but Jesus came so you can have life, and have it abundantly (John 10:10).

 © Adeniyi Tim Oluwamayowa 2020

How to Avoid Being Manipulated While Choosing a Life Partner 

Dear waiting singles, manipulation is real, don't fall for it.

One thing that I have discovered recently is that when God has great plans for your life, the devil is also not sleeping. You need to be very careful, patient, and prayerful to avoid becoming its victim.

Manipulation is the process of planning out usually with subtle skill, deceit or care so that your choice of who to marry is influenced by the manipulator, to their own advantage.

A manipulator would influence you emotionally to do their bidding. They will tell you, "Marry this person," or "This is the person I want you to marry," please be careful.

The devil also manipulates through the agency of his representatives disguised as men or women of God, or some spiritual fathers or mothers, or counselors.

Be careful of making anyone an assistant to God in your life.

How can I escape being a victim of manipulation?

1. Be spiritually sensitive

Becoming spiritually alert is not by going to church or praying once in a while, it is by having a functional prayer altar, and becoming so addicted to the word of God that you study and meditate in it as commanded.

You will fall into satanic manipulation when you make marital decision during the prayerless season of your life.

If the iron be blunt, then you do well to sharpen it. If your spirit man can't clearly discern God's voice above the storms of passion, and the murmurs of self-will, it's advisable to sharpen up your inner man.

Take time to develop your prayer life, pray always and don't faint. Spend quality time with God, not just when you need Him urgently.

2. Don't let anyone influence your choice on whom to marry

Whether good decision or bad is what you ended up making, you will face the consequence. Don't let anyone influence you on who to marry.

You might be told she has money, he's working in a bank, he or she is romantic, he's nice, she's humble, and so on; until you clearly hear God, don't make any move.

Be it a man of God, prophet or seer, let no one be the final influence on who you marry, else you'd discover later in marriage that you have married the wrong person.

It's better to be very slow and get it right than to hurriedly make decisions, and regret it afterwards.

3. Don't get so involved with anyone that you would swallow everything they tell you, hook, line, and sinker without vetting it.

Similarly to point 2, don't make anyone in your life infallible, the only person that can't make error is God.

Do you know that some men or women of God are not in their best state spiritually to guide you?

A man of God is first a man before the grace of God comes upon his life.

No marriage counselor or relationship coach knows it all or understand God's will for you.

The crux of this matter is to never make anyone an idol in your life that you worship or treasure their counsel above that of God and His word.

4. Never be in haste or under pressure to get married

One of the greatest strategies that make singles manipulated is when they see themselves as getting old or late to be married.

If it would cost you more than a month to propose or accept a proposal, while prayerfully seeking His face for direction, please do, and take your time.

A genuine brother won't hurry you to accept his proposal, and a sincere sister won't delay your proposal for ages.

5. Invoke the mercy of God

I have come to believe that those who marry right do not do so, because they can pray or fast very well, it's a token of God's mercy.

Let God take away His mercy, they'll miss it just as a person misses his or her last opportunity in life.

Inasmuch as you would pray, don't fail to invoke His mercy so that when every other things seems to be right or perfect, His mercy would prevail and you would see clearly.

Dear reader, manipulation is real. One major reasons why serious and firebrand brothers and sisters misses it in their choice of who to marry is because they became a victim of satanic deception and manipulation.

Deception and manipulation goes side by side, and Satan is often the instigator. He provoked David, and made him to number the children of Israel. Subtly, the old prophet deceived the young prophet while thinking it was the will of God for him to do his bidding.

Don't make any decision when you are confused or uncertain. Let no one rush you!

Do not forget that the angel of darkness also transforms as an angel of light to deceive the saints. Prayerfully test all spirits.

Test all "God says," vet all dreams and revelations prayerfully and with time. If you don't understand your dreams or vision, spend time with the  Holy Spirit to guide you through its understanding.

Not all men or women of God have the spiritual intelligence to accurately interpret your revelations.

I pray for every single trusting God on who to marry, and for myself that the mercy of God will exempt us from becoming a victim of manipulation in life and in marriage in Jesus name.

© Adeniyi Tim Oluwamayowa

             INVOLVE GOD IN IT

 

"In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths" (Proverbs 3:6 KJV)

The ways of man are numerous since his life is multifaceted. There is the way of man when it comes to marriage: making marital choice, courtship, wedding and how the marriage is lived out.

The ways of man are the manner or method by which he does things or make things happen in his life. A man's way can be evil or good. But to enjoy the best of God in life, you must acknowledge God in all your ways, not some or few, but in all.

God's ways are not your ways, and your ways doesn't mean you are doing it in His way.

To acknowledge God in all your ways, think about what He wants before you take any step. Put Him first, not the opinion of men or you lean onto your own understanding (ways).

However, acknowledging God in all your ways would be impossible if you're not God-conscious and God-pleasing (God fearing). Many who indulge in wicked and immoral vices do so because they did not like to retain God in their knowledge (Rom. 1:28).

You cannot do it in your own way and expect God to bless it. God blesses and endorse those things that are done in His own ways.

If you are going to involve God in your life or relationship, seek to listen to His voice in all you do. Do not allow the voice of passion, the murmurs of self will or the opinions of man to take preeminence in whatever you do.

If God will be involved, aside making your ways known to Him in the place of prayer, you must also wait patiently for His response and timing. It may take you days or weeks to hear a word from Him on that matter, don't rush or be in haste.

It is better to be slow or late and get a word from Him than to act swiftly without getting any word from Him. Never forget king Saul who did not wait for Samuel to come before he acted.

God still direct those who involve Him in all their affairs.

            God's Definition of Marriage 

God in His sovereignty can do all things without man's help, but because man was created on earth as His representative, He needed man to legislate on earth by giving him a body. Even Jesus, the Son of God was given a body to carry out His assignment on earth.

More than having a body, man was created to help God on earth.

Why was man kept in Eden? Why couldn't He have allowed man to become a wanderer?

God has a purpose for every of His creature. Even you, you were created by Him for a purpose.

Prior to the creation of the institution of marriage, Adam was saddled with the responsibility of tending and cultivating the garden. And in addition, he helped God to name all the animals.

On this premise, man was helping God to carry out what He needed man to do on earth.

How can God have dominion on earth without His cooperation with man? How can His kingdom come without man praying His descent?

Before you nurse the idea of marriage, what are you helping God to do on earth? To populate His kingdom or to increase the number of those going to hell?

It is very crucial that you discover your divine purpose and be occupied with its fulfillment.

God cannot make a help meet for a man who is not helping Him on earth. And a helper can't be given to a woman who lacks the capacity to become a help meet.

Mind you, because you are made in His image and likeness, you can go on to find a wife or husband for yourself, but not a help meet or helper.

Hear this beloved, not all women are wives, and not all wives are help meet. If you want a wife that is a help meet for your life and destiny, now and in the future, you must live for His purpose on earth.

Who is a help meet for a man?

It is God that makes a woman to be a help meet for a man who's helping Him.

Dear sisters, a man can make you his wife by marrying you through whichever means his unregenerate mind can conceive.

Because he wants to make you his wife, he'll tell you to be pregnant before marriage or test your fertility so he can be sure you're a woman indeed. If he doesn't want to do that, he will tell you to come and spend every weekend in his house to see how 'wifely' you'd become.

Will you allow a man to make you his wife or you'd allow God to make you a help meet for the man He has prepared for you?

God's definition of marriage is the coming together of a man who's helping God to fulfill His purpose on earth and a woman who is a help meet for him, alongside their godly understanding of marriage so they can both achieve His purpose on earth.

It's on this premise that one will chase a thousand and two would chase ten thousand to flight.

A man becomes God's helper, and a woman becomes man's help meet because they have an understanding of their divine purpose and its fulfillment.

Dear single and waiting brothers and sisters, I know how uneasy it is to wait before you find someone who you can call your would-be spouse, but trust me, the process will be less cumbersome when you are occupied with the fulfillment of your divine purpose on earth.

Dear brother, are you a helper to God? And my dear sister, will you allow God to make you a help meet for the right man or you'd cast your pearls before swines?

Let God make you!

© Adeniyi Tim Oluwamayowa 2020

3 Things to Know and do For Your Marital Partner

If many of us had understood that we'd be married to someone someday, we'd have been intentional about doing certain things for them even before we meet them.

It's one thing to believe that God can guide you on whom to marry, it's another thing to do something for them before you meet them or after you have met them.

Understanding is a crucial matter in any relationship. How you'd relate or react to your partner is tied to your understanding, how they'll relate and react towards you is a function of their understanding.

When you know certain things about your partner and you do the right thing, it will go a long way in making your relationship blissful.

What you need to know about him or her

1. They have a past

I have a past. You have one. Your would be spouse also have one.

Some people's past are beautiful, some ugly or terrible. But no past is too bad that with God and your understanding, you can't live with.

Whether you have met each other or not, arm yourself with an understanding that they do not fall from heaven. So, be prepared to deal with whatever past you'd discover about them. This is one of the reasons why you must depend on God to guide you in your choice of who to marry.

God won't bring you a person whose past you can't deal with. But if you choose without Him, I'm afraid if their past won't destroy your union when you discover it.

2. They have a mindset

Our mindset is as old as how grown-up we have become. It's formed by our education, religion, experience, exposure and philosophy about life.

Your partner's mindset may not tally with yours, you need wisdom to handle this. One of the areas where you must be one flesh is in the area of your mindset. Don't be one flesh in body when you haven't become so in spirit and soul.

When you marry someone, you also marry their mindset and you need understanding and patience so your mindset can blend.

3. They're not perfect

Nobody is perfect, we are all work in progress to become one.

Your partner's age, years of being saved, church, education or experience does not determine how perfect they may be. However, perfection is relative. What you term perfection may not be what your partner defines perfection to be.

Love accepts an imperfect person, and with understanding, it relates with them until they both grow to be perfect.

Never expect your partner to be 100% perfect. This is why there's need for realistic compromise and understanding to tolerate one another till your imperfection sublimes.

Now that you know your partner or would be one isn't an angel who is flawless and doesn't have any track record of negative past, you must be ready to do the following for them.

1. Pray

Whether you have met him or her or not, you need to pray for him or her. Prayer goes a long way in addressing lots of things in their lives only if you pray for them while waiting or continue with same when married.

Prayer can correct a wrong mindset, repair the effect of a bad foundation (past) and improve their state of imperfection. This is called intercessory prayer and it has to be persistent.

Pray for him or her if you haven't met them. This is faith at work, and it'll prevent you from worrying.

2. Be patient

Having met him or her, be patient with him or her. Love is patient. It takes patience to achieve oneness, it's a process and it's not automatic. You need patience so that you can both understand each other.

There is nobody you can't live with, except a wrong, if you are patient and relate with them with understanding. However, patience is not learnt through formal education, you learn it through experience or God gives you.

It takes patience to marry the right person and to make your marriage successful. If you don't relate with your partner in patience, your impatience will destroy lots in your marriage.

Impatience will make you feel suspicious, jealous, assume, throw tantrums, and would affect your union.

3. Communicate

It's believed that communication is the lifeblood of every relationship.

If you're yet to meet with your spouse, speak into their life prophetically; if you are married, engage in meaningful conversations with yourselves.

Mutual communication helps you achieve emotional intimacy. Without effective communication, separation will creep into your relationship. When communication is absent, you will live as strangers.

Talk about your fears, future, hope, success, failure, dreams, aspirations and any matter of concern. You can't underestimate the power of effective communication in your relationship. It saves you from visiting counselors frequently if you two can open up to each other.

Now that you know what you need to know about your partner, and the things you need to do, what's preventing you from doing these?

© Adeniyi Tim Oluwamayowa 2020

BE AT PEACE WITH GOD

"Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ" (Romans 5:1 KJV)

Man, by creation was God's favorite and delight. There was harmony between God and man in such a way that God usually fellowship with man in the cool of the evening. When sin came, man lost his place in God and he became an enemy of God.

Everyone born through natural conception are God's enemy because of the sinful nature inherent in man by birth.

However, to have peace with God, one thing is needful; you have to be justified by faith. To be justified means to be made righteous in the sight of God.

You can't be made righteous in God's sight by your works of righteousness, that is, being morally right, you are justified by your faith in Jesus Christ. Trying to live a life that pleases God without your faith in Jesus Christ doesn't earn you approval in God's sight.

Do you believe in Jesus? If yes, demons also believe and they tremble. But if your belief does not transform your life to make you justified by faith, you can't be at peace with God.

Taking care of the poor, widow, needy or living a life that's free from moral wrongs does not make you be at peace with God if you do not have faith in Jesus.

The greatest peace you can ever make is to be at peace with God. Jesus came to reconcile mankind to God but are you personally at peace with Him?

MARRIAGE

One of the most fear-inducing, unpredictable but most amazing institution in life is the institution of marriage. If there's anything else that many feared the most based on stories heard, information handed over or what they witnessed personally, is this thing called marriage.

Marriage is beyond the coming together of a man and woman to become husband and wife. If this is only the understanding you have about marriage, you will be shocked to know that there's more to marriage than living together as couples.

Do your thoughts about marriage make you fear, or the uncertainties in it worries you? I bring you glad tidings from the Lord.

To get the best out of your marriage, one thing is needful; it is called understanding, and it is the foundation on which other things thrives.

First, work on your mindset. Others may have a failed or enduring marriage, you must be optimistic about yours. Your understanding about marriage will affect your mindset.

The difference between a successful or failed marriage has much to do with the mindset of the persons involved. If what you understood about marriage is to consider divorce at the sight of minor issues, your marriage can't reach a decade.

More so, if what you understood about marriage is that when a woman acts womanly, beating her up is the best way to deal with the situation, then something is wrong with your mindset.

If because he couldn't fulfill his role as a man financially for a while, then frustrating him is all you think would solve the problem, your mindset is wrong.

Marriage is sweet, it depends on the cutlery (understanding) you use. And it could be sometimes worse than hell, it's still a function of your understanding.

You need to understand God's purpose for marriage before you venture into it, that's if you want to do so according to His will.

God didn't create marriage first, He created man before marriage was institutionalized. Marriage was created so that a man and his wife would continue the fulfillment of God's purpose for their lives - and to enforce dominion by multiplying God's influence on earth (establishing His kingdom).

When you lack this basic understanding and you think having marital sex, giving birth to children are all that there is to marriage; what happens when there's delay in having a child or there's sexual dissatisfaction?

Know why God created marriage before you go into it. If you don't, you will bastardize this amazing institution.

To make sure that your marriage succeed, you need to understand yourself before you think of settling down with someone else.

Do you know yourself - God's purpose for your life, your perception about life, temperament and all those things you need to know about yourself?

Can you marry the kind of person you have become? You need to work on this so you can correct those things that would make you have a failed marriage or become a wrong partner.

Because many do not know who a wrong person is and how to identify one beyond face value, they think everyone who meets their specs is the right person.

You need to understand who a wrong person is so you can do all that's in your ability to avoid one. A wrong person doesn't believe in what you believe, neither do they value what you value.

The physical appearance and those compatibility checklist of a wrong person who looks like a potential suitor, which is unknown to you, may exceed your average score, but what truly makes them wrong is the condition of their heart - their motive for desiring to marry.

Almighty formula won't reveal the condition of their heart, but that you seek His face earnestly in the place of prayer.

Do you also know that marriages fail when the wrong person marries the right person; when two wrong persons marry each other and when the right persons applied the wrong principles to run their marriage?

Marriage is not complex or evil as it has been painted to be, what many lack is understanding. If the ground on which you stand about marriage is wrong and you venture into it, when rain falls, the floods came and the wind of life beats upon your marriage, great will its fall be.

What do you understand about this thing called marriage? What have you read about marriage? Which source did you get your knowledge about marriage from?

Remember, guard your heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life, and as a man (or woman) thinks in his heart (about marriage and in relating with their partner) so is he.

© Adeniyi Tim Oluwamayowa 2020

HOLINESS(A lifestyle) Concluding part..

Component of Holiness

E. To be holy one must be obedient to God’s Word.

In addition to the positional, personal, and purity components of holiness, there is an ethical component. Holiness requires obedience to God’s Word.

Leviticus 19:2-3 says, “Speak unto all the congregation of the children of Israel, and say unto them, Ye shall be holy: for I the LORD your God am holy. Ye shall fear every man his mother, and his father, and keep my Sabbaths: I am the LORD your God.”

Again, Leviticus 20:7-8 says, “Sanctify yourselves therefore, and be ye holy: for I am the LORD your God. And ye shall keep my statutes, and do them: I am the LORD which sanctify you.” Notice the inseparable connection between “being holy,” and obeying God’s Word.

A reading of the context of Leviticus 19:2-3 and 20:7-8 reveals that holiness is exceedingly practical. For example, it is demonstrated by respectful treatment of parents, sexual purity, avoidance of anything associated with the occult, compassion on the poor, honesty, kindness, justice, refusal to be a talebearer, and not avenging oneself or bearing a grudge (Lev. 20:9-27; 19:4-18).

Conclusion

We began our message with the statement, “Holiness is not optional for a Christian.” We conclude our message with the same assertion: holiness is not optional for a Christian. We also learned that there are five essential components of holiness.

To be holy one must:

be connected to God—the source of holiness,

be separated to God as His possession,

be separated from the common (ordinary),

be separated from all that God says is unclean or morally defiles, and

be obedient to God’s Word.

1 See Job 6:10; Isa. 40:25; 43:15; Ezek. 39:7; Hos. 11:9; Hab. 1:12; 3:3.
2 See 2 Kings 19:22; Isa. 1:4; 43:3; Jer. 50:29; 51:5.

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C. To be holy one must be separated from the common (ordinary).

The third element of holiness involves separation from the common or ordinary (some translations use the word “profane”).

Here we learn the important concept that God often requires his people to separate from things not necessarily sinful, just things that if purged from the life will strengthen the Christian’s walk with God. To emphasize this element of holiness, God divided everything into two basic categories: holy and common.

He then subdivided the category of common (or ordinary) into two division:

clean and

unclean.

That which is clean can be devoted to God and become holy. That which is unclean, after the proper cleansing procedure, can become clean and could be devoted to God and become holy. That which is permanently unclean can never become holy.

The terms “clean” and “unclean” have nothing to do with cleanliness. They are religious categories designed to emphasize that God has a standard of moral and ethical right and wrong that is as clearly distinguishable as are the categories of clean and unclean.

That God gave the food laws to teach His people how to discern between the unclean, the common, and the holy, and not to teach health principles, is made clear in Deuteronomy 14 which is a summation of the food laws given in Leviticus 11. If health were the primary issue, God can be charged with not caring about the health of Gentile peoples.

To the Israelites He said, “Do not eat anything you find already dead. You may give it to an alien living in any of your towns, and he may eat it, or you may sell it to a foreigner. But you are a people holy to the LORD your God” (Deut. 14:21, NIV). He did not tell the Israelites to sell the “unclean” meat to foreigners in order to damage their health.

Clearly, God cares about the health of all nations! Further, when Jesus was asked about the proper observance of the food laws, he replied that the primary purpose of these laws was to teach a person how to discern right from wrong. He said that what a person eats cannot defile him. What defiles a person is improper thoughts, attitudes, and actions that spring from the heart.

Then he declared all foods clean (Mark 7:18-23) That God expects His people to be able to distinguish clearly between holy and unholy, and between clean and unclean, is emphasized in Leviticus 10:10.

One of the major charges God made against the priesthood, as Israel began to backslide was, “her priests have violated my law, and have profaned mine holy things: they have put no difference between the holy and profane [common], neither have they shewed difference between the unclean and the clean, and have hid their eyes from my Sabbaths, and I am profaned among them” (Ezek. 22:26; 44:23).

The same problem exists today. Carefulness to separate from common things which are not inherently sinful, just because God has called for this personal separation, is becoming rare. If we don’t joyfully follow God’s gentle promptings to separate from the non-sinful “common” because we and others’ declare, “There is nothing wrong with it!” we forfeit the delight of His presence and are soon in confusion.

We then end up like the people during the period of the Judges when everyone simply does what is right in his own eyes (see Jud. 17:6; 21:25; and especially Num. 15:39). The cure for this lack of sensitivity to God’s call to be holy and the ability to respond to His gentle promptings to separate from things that are not inherently sinful, according to the writer of Hebrews, is found when Christians press on to entire sanctification.

Without entire sanctification, Christians are destined to remain “unskillful in the word of righteousness” and unable to develop the degree of discernment and sensitivity to God’s will that He desires. Entire sanctification enables the Christian to discern more clearly what is good and what is evil in God’s eyes (Heb. 5:12-6:1)

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     COMPONENT OF HOLINESS

A. To be holy one must be connected  God—the source of holiness.

The first explicit statement of God’s holiness is Exodus 15:11: “Who is like unto thee, O LORD, among the gods? who is like thee, glorious in holiness, fearful in praises, doing wonders?” Everything God is, and everything He does, is holy. He is regularly described as “the Holy One” or “the Holy One of Israel.”

God alone is holy. He is infinitely, unchangeably, and eternally holy. His holiness is underived and independent. Therefore, nothing is holy unless it comes in contact with the Source of holiness, the holy God. This explains why the ground surrounding the burning bush was called “holy ground.” God’s presence turned common, ordinary ground into holy ground.

B. To be holy one must be separated to God as His possession.

When we speak of people, places, or things as holy, we must keep several facts in mind. First, such holiness is derived and dependent upon a continuing relationship with God. For example, God claimed Israel as His personal possession by right of redemption from the bondage of Egypt (Exo. 19:5).

Being claimed by the holy God made the Israelites separate from other people and holy. “For thou art an holy people unto the LORD thy God: the LORD thy God hath chosen thee to be a special people unto himself, above all people that are upon the face of the earth” (Deut. 7:6).

In the case of Moses, the ground surrounding the burning bush was now separated to God as His personal possession and was no longer to be treated as common or ordinary ground. Places and things have positional holiness. But God will not allow His people to be only positionally holy. He requires them to be personally and ethically holy.

They must cleanse themselves from all sinful associations and behavior, and live in obedience to His commands. This is the truth Paul is teaching when he says to the Corinthians believers, “What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s (1 Cor. 6:19,20).


At the moment of the new birth, you are made holy. You enter into a personal relationship with God and become His possession. You are no longer your own. You are to glorify Him in all you do by following His instructions. Holiness is to characterize the believer’s life each moment of each day.

               HOLINESS (A lifesyle)

Text: Ephisians 4: 21-32.

When we look at the word HOLY,  Means something pure,  without blemish. For instance a white apparel without stain.

It can also mean,  exalted or worthy of complete devotion as one perfect in goodness and righteousness.

Can also be define as a state of been set apart from defilement.

When we consider the word HOLINESS,  it refers to the state or quality of being Holy..I.e how clean something is,  how pure some thing is. Holiness also mean been sanctified.

In this dispensation,  majority outside there has stopped listening to Christian preachings,  and their focus are on our life, what we talk about, what we wear,  what kind of gathering we keep and so on. We are not save to continue to live in sin or any uncleanness,  but was called unto His marvelous light.

For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness.
1 Thessalonians 4:7 KJV
https://bible.com/bible/1/1th.4.7.KJV

Jesus christ encourage us to live with everyone with peace,  and in so doing holiness should be our life style... We have forgotten that,  there is little to our reward in the body of Christ,  if holiness is out of our life.

"Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:
Hebrews 12:14 KJV"
https://bible.com/bible/1/heb.12.14.KJV

As a child of God,  we are expect to live a holy life.One of the fruit you should bear as a child of God is holiness.

" But now being made free from sin, and become servants to God, ye have your fruit unto holiness, and the end everlasting life.
Romans 6:22 KJV"
https://bible.com/bible/1/rom.6.22.KJV



To be continued............

One Sure Principle For Running a Successful Marriage 

Going by hard core experience, I may not have been best suited in writing anything about marriage because I'm still a first class bachelor. But going by divine inspiration, I believe I have found grace in His sight to share these truths with you.

In my years of learning about marriage, both theories from books and practical discoveries from married folks, I have come to the conclusion that one thing is surely needed by couples to make their marriage successful.

You don't need so many teachings or counsel to make your marriage work, you only need one thing. Just one thing!

David didn't use many stones to keep Goliath, he only picked the right one. Jesus didn't tell Martha to do many things, He only pointed her to Mary who did one thing that was needful.

It is not how much of the religious activities you do that shows you love God, the conclusion of Jesus' summary of the Ten Commandments is encapsulated in one sentence - the proof that you love God is determined by how much of His word you know and obey.

Do I also need to tell you that you don't need many ideas to become great in life or know many great men, you just need one right idea or a great man that will catapult you to the peak of greatness.

One basic formula for running a successful marriage is UNDERSTANDING, and for a successful Christian marriage to thrive, understand the marriage relationship between Christ and the Church - His bride. That's all!

Permit me to break it down.

It is understanding that would make you patient when your spouse is infuriated.

It is understanding that will make you tolerate the excesses and shortcomings of your partner.

It is understanding that will make you choose the right partner, be the right person and apply the right principles for a successful marriage.

It's understanding that will make you walk out of a heated argument that could push you to abuse your partner verbally and violently.

How much of understanding you have is a reflection of your expression of love that is unconditional, sacrificial and selfless.

Do you know that it's understanding that will make you study your partner to know them? I don't mean studying to love them, but to dwell with him or her according to the knowledge that you have discovered.

It's understanding that will make you deal wisely with your mean in-laws and spouse.

No wonder Solomon in his wisdom said that in all your getting, get understanding.

Do you know that he further said that understanding is a wellspring of life to him that has it? More to be gotten than silver is to get understanding?

Oh, how I wish you knew how many times David prayed for understanding in Psalms 119 and what Jesus did to His disciples who lacked it!

You may have everything that qualifies you to be married, but if you don't have understanding, please don't go into marriage.

It is understanding that will make you know how men behaves in specific situations of their lives, and likewise women; but lack of understanding will make you misbehave.

In running a successful Christian marriage, you need divine understanding. When you understood how Jesus related with His bride and how His bride related with Him, you will understand the ethos of a successful Christian marriage.

It is good to read relationship or marriage books, attend seminars or marriage conferences, but if you lack understanding, you will mess up your marital life.

Several issues in life will test your understanding of marriage, you must be grounded in understanding.

Understanding is beyond an abstract concept, it's a virtue that's embedded in a man or woman's personality.

What do you understand about a man or woman? What do you understand about your own man or woman?

In all your getting, get understanding!

© Adeniyi Tim Oluwamayowa 2020