IS RELATIONSHIP ALL ABOUT GIVE AND TAKE?

I have read and heard so much about relationship as to what it ought to be by several people from all walks of life. Perhaps, most people tend to define relationship based on their view, what they read or have watched and their personal experience about it.

Popularly, you’d hear people say that relationship is all about ‘give and take’. Undoubtedly, it’s true but many do not know what they ought to give and what they’re not supposed to give. There are some things that are deemed suitable to give and there are many things you don’t have to give. An ignorance of this simple truth has cost many their life and destiny. Yet, they cry and make a generalized statement about the gender that does them evil.

There are some things you need to give in marriage that you’re not meant to give in any other forms of relationship. When you give what you’re not meant to give outside marriage, giving that thing in marriage is nothing but a leftover. What are you to give?

1. Friendship

For a relationship that’s not leading to marriage and even if it is, the most important thing you’ve got to give is your friendship. Many have lost the art of friendship and replaced it with ‘sexship’. In friendship, boundaries are to be defined and redefined; strings are not meant to be attached and the welfare of each others are to be cared for.

Being friends with another isn’t meant to ruin or wreck your life. When friendship rights are exclusively mutual, both parties would benefit. However, the kind of friends you have would determine the outcome of your relationship. Remember, iron is meant to sharpen iron and the same goes for friendship too (Prov. 27:17). What are the things you’re NOT to give?

1. Your heart

The human heart is fragile, whether you’re a man or woman. Any relationship that isn’t leading to marriage, which you’re not convincingly sure of shouldn’t take a large portion of your heart. When you give the larger part of your heart to someone who doesn’t know its worth, you have given them the opportunity to ruin your life.

Whether in marriage or friendship, all of your heart isn’t meant for your spouse or friend. You know why? “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, strength and might” (Luke 10:27).

If anyone takes the place of God in your heart, be ready to face the consequence, big time! No matter how loving he or she may see, they can’t love you better than God.

Enough of the empty love talk when you’re toasting him or her or they’re toasting you, only God can love you forever. Man will only promise to stand by you whenever the going is good, as soon as it is bad or worse, they’ll go to where the grass is greener. When you give your heart to God in unfeign love, He knows the heart of the right person to give. But you’re not far from heart break and the likes when you give your heart to a man or woman. This is the truth you mustn’t trivialize!

2. Your body

A lot of people are blinded to the fact that they don’t own their bodies. God created it and you’re but only a custodian. Giving your body in a relationship for whatever reason is stupidity and the beginning of failure.

Some people give their body for love on the altar of premarital sex, some give their bodies as a means for immoralities. Why? My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge (Hos. 4:6)!

Why would you use your body to prove to him or her that you indeed love him or her? Why would you allow someone to tap “current” from your body because you feel it’s normal?

Wake up folks! Your body first belong to God, He gave it to you (your spirit lives in there) and He knows the right person to give if you’d allow Him.

Relationship is all about give and take but you don’t give what would destroy your own life for love. That’s the greatest height of folly! Give nothing but friendship, where no strings are attached and boundaries are defined. Not everyone would agree to these truth but you can do nothing about the truth: it’s either you take it and allow it to save you or neglect it and be exposed to its consequence! Give what wouldn’t cost you or that you’d have to regret in the nearest future.