by Mayowa Adeniyi
Whom to Marry: Do You Know The Best Matchmaker? When it comes to choosing a life partner, who you marry has a lot to do with what your life becomes. It’s either they help you become better or make your life worse.
In the process of choosing whom to marry, many result to the use of matchmakers to get whom they feel they’re okay with in marriage. Is that enough to have a successful marriage?
Many have settled for several matchmakers and the results of their marital life has been laden with blame, regrets and woes. Who do we blame for this?
A matchmaker is a person who decides or orchestrate the coming together of a man and woman in becoming husband and wife. Whether you take cognizance of it or not, they exist.
In case you don’t know, there are three types of matchmakers in life and they exert their influence on the type of person you marry.
1. You
i want Yes, you! You are the first matchmaker you could ever think of. When you allow what you see to influence your decision on whom to marry and you go ahead to act on it, you’ll bear the consequence of such outcome yourself.
Let me tell you this, you can’t know the right person for you in marriage even if you seem to be hundred percent compatible. Do you know what would happen in the future?
A man that seems loving today can end up becoming a beast tomorrow. And a woman too can decide to walk out of her matrimonial home for no reason.
Oftentimes many choose whom they want through dating, which is ungodly, whether you call it Christian or secular dating. Some even go the length of cohabiting – living couples life with the premonition of getting married. Most of these often lead to frustration, failure and wasting of time and life.
Don’t let people brainwash you into believing that you can choose yourself.
2. People
In olden days, parents do give out their sons and daughters to people whom they feel would be suitable for their children. It has been proven to be effective in those times but unfortunately, it doesn’t work in this age anymore.
Your marriage may not be successful if you allow people to match make you two. Chances are slim that it would work because you’re uncertain about what the future holds.
And that a man seem to be anointed doesn’t give them the authority in deciding who is suitable for you in marriage.
It is better to hold on to God’s word than to hold on to what pastors say concerning you two. Don’t allow people orchestrate your coming together as husband and wife.
The role of the men of God is to guide you and not to enforce a particular person on you. Anyone that enforces his authority or wish on you is evil and a bully.
Do not allow people to match make a partner for you, either by coercion or through suggestive measures. There’s no guarantee that the person would remain the person you knew. Why? It takes a strong conviction to weather the storms that could arise in marriage together.
Although people have match make in the past and it worked but in this perilous time, you need God because the heart of men and women are desperately wicked.
3. God
One thing many people ignore or care less to know is that God is still at the business of matchmaking His sons and daughters together in marriage.
He did it in the garden of Eden, although Adam blamed Him but in this era of grace, He has promised us to ask and it shall be given unto us.
Are you in need of a marital partner? I’d rather advice you to trust God to help you because only Him knows the right man and suitable help meet for you.
Aside that, it takes a mutual conviction that comes from God to stay put in a marriage when there’s every signs of quitting the union, you’re safe if God orchestrate the coming together of you two and it’s based on mutual conviction.
No matter how you’d draw up a compatibility test or preferences, they’ll amount to failure when the eventualities of life happens.
If you’d trust God, then you must do away with your own options or game plan in choosing a partner for yourself. You need to ask, trust and wait patiently on God.
That you’re ready for marriage doesn’t mean God is ready and at the same time He might be ready while you’re not ready for Him. God rules the affairs of those who choose to submit their will to Him and He’ll give them nothing but His best.
Marriage, is seen to be a complex institution but I tell you this: when God becomes the Alpha in your search and the Omega in your union coupled with the fact that you two are willing to make it work, success is inevitable.
Are you ready to match make yourself or allow people to influence your decision on whom to marry? I’d rather advice you not to lean on your understanding.
Pay the price to allow God bring you the right partner so that you can earn His best.
The only successful marriage in life is one that God orchestrates the coming together of His sons and daughters in holy matrimony and their mutual conviction coupled with their willingness to make it work.
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