by Mayowa Adeniyi
what you need to know about a right partner “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is right for him” – (Genesis 2:18, GW)
Whether you believe or not, care to listen or not, when it comes to choosing a partner, there’s the right partner and there’s the wrong partner.
When the first man was made, God took it upon Himself to make him a suitable help meet or someone who is right for him. God didn’t find a suitable help meet in the likes of Gorillas, Chimpanzees, Baboons who have semblance with man according to archaeological beliefs. There was no helper in all the animals that were available until God made a right partner for Adam. As much as you’re unique and an incomplete being without a partner, you need some to rightly fit into your missing rib as a man and to fit a man’s missing rib as a woman. This is where the issue of better half comes into play.
A right partner is someone who is suitable for your life, purpose and destiny both now and in the future. He or she is made to complement the missing part of you and not to compete with you. He or she is made to be a companion and not a thorn in your flesh. As populated as the world is, you can only have a right partner for your life and not two, except in the case of death when you have to look for another.
On this issue of right partner, many have completely missed it and ruin their lives. You cannot and can never know the right partner yourself, no matter how educated, exposed and experienced you are. If it were to be possible, man wouldn’t have been in need of God in his affairs in life.
Let me share some essential truths you need to know about a right partner.
1. There’s always a right partner for everyone
Since Adam couldn’t find a helper in a Chimpanzee or a Goat, there’s also a wrong partner for you even amongst your fellow human.
There’s a right partner for you whom God has destined to complement your life. God has specifically made that person to complete the missing part in you.
When you pick just anyone else for your life, be sure to get whom you feel right for you and not God’s right partner for you.
For instance, a career freak isn’t suitable for a man who’s called to be a prophet. They are two unsuitable being. And that he or she seem right for you doesn’t make them God’s will.
That He permitted the relationship doesn’t mean that’s His perfect will.
2. You have no power to know the right partner
Man usually do claim the ability to know what he feels right for him since he has a functional brain and understanding. But little did he know that when it comes to choosing a partner, he doesn’t have the power to know the right person.
A person who you feel is right for you today without God’s approval or guidance will be unsuitable for you in the future.
A person can be right for you today and be unfit tomorrow because you are a work in progress. This is not the final version of you. Your life, desire, body, pursuit or entire being are susceptible to change.
If you don’t wait on Him to guide you into marrying someone He has made suitable for your future, you will have irreconcilable issues in the future when there are changes.
And the likes of dating, cohabiting, catching them young or employing worldly gimmicks in choosing a partner to marry cannot guarantee you a perfect means of finding the right person.
Only God who knows the end from the beginning has the capacity to guide you into knowing who’s right or wrong for you. This is why He’s the Almighty and the All knowing!
3. It’s best to make yourself a right partner while waiting
Many a single usually feel it is the right partner that would define their life and marriage while they fold their hands doing nothing. Never!
Instead of wasting away your life and time while waiting, do all you can in your ability to be the right partner. Work on yourself – emotionally, spiritually, financially, mentally, health wise and other areas that could affect your relationship.
You cannot get the right partner by becoming a wrong partner. Likes would only attract likes. And if by chance you marry the right partner, the unsuitable aspect of your life would mar the other person’s life which would in turn destroy the relationship.
4. Not everyone that comes your way is or likely to be the right person for you
I need to let you know this! Not everyone that you seem to get along easily with is suitable for your life. This is one reason why you shouldn’t lean on your own understanding when it comes to choosing whom to marry.
That he cares for you, he’s concerned about your needs, gifts you, gives you attention or lavish you with affection doesn’t make him the right partner. Even if she has all you wanted in a wife doesn’t make her your suitable help meet because you do not know what the future holds.
That they seem to have everything you love or had wanted in a spouse doesn’t make them right for you if God has not spoken. This is why relying on the issue of compatibility preferences alone doesn’t work if God didn’t guide you.
You can be compatible today and be incompatible tomorrow. Are you planning to get married this year or latter years. Quit the quest for a right partner and allow God to guide you while you make yourself the right partner. It is dangerous to find the right partner yourself without God’s leading!
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