4 Ways You Will Be Engaged In A ‘Necessary’ But Wasted Relationship

by Mayowa Adeniyi

wasted relationship. Do you know that there are many singles, teenagers and adults who are engaged in this kind of relationship? You might be one of them, who knows!
A ‘necessary’ but wasted relationship is one where many people find themselves in whereby they put a lot into it and in the long run, it amount to an effort in futility. How does it happens?

1. Through cohabitation
Whether living couples’ life in school or after school, those who engage in such act only ended up wasting the better part of their life on a relationship that would lead them nowhere.
I have also seen Corp members who go to camp to be engaged in such relationship, only to be disappointed on their passing out parade day.

Cohabiting is never the best way to get a spouse, both culturally and scripturally. You will waste your time, body and resources on a relationship that would take you know where.
If you’re to meet your spouse anywhere, cohabiting doesn’t help you to know them better. Moreover, the truth is that you can’t know all about your partner even fifteen years into the marital journey.

2. When you spend blindly
It is good to spend but it’s worse to spend blindly on someone that’s not your prospective spouse when you’re not fully convince about him or her.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t help the poor or needy, but sponsoring a lady or man through the four walls of the university when God didn’t tell you to do so, with your own expectation to be married to him or her is nothing but a colossal waste. Lots of men and women have been heart broken as a result of this kind of wasted investment. It’s good to make sacrifices but it’s stupid when you make blind sacrifice.

3. Being emotionally engaged
Some men have made life unbearable for some ladies by attaching themselves emotionally to meet all their needs.
You call her often, provide a shoulder for her to lean on, became everything she needs, both legal and illegal; and at the end, she was shocked to hear that you’re ‘just friend’.
Ladies too aren’t spared from this because they act up thinking their emotional investment would make him consider them as an intended spouse. They assume he’s the one and invest all their emotions on him.
Don’t be disappointed when he announce to you that he can’t marry you since he takes you to be his sister or that she sees you as her brother.

4. Through boyfriend and girlfriend relationship
I have seen and known about many relationship of this kind that ended up nowhere.
Back in those days in school when you see young men and ladies spending their pocket money or part of their school fees for their boyfriend or girlfriend and the relationship didn’t last till the next session or semester and you’re amazed about how they ended. Isn’t that a wasted life?

You’ll be surprised to hear about their break ups while they move on in such cycle of wasted relationship. Boyfriend and girlfriend relationship will never help you to know the right partner, it will only increase your worries, heartache, failure and futile investment when it comes to relationship. This kind of relationship only exist based on trial and error basis of seeking the right partner.

How to be free 1. Only through salvation
Recently, I discover that salvation doesn’t only save a man’s soul and spirit in eternity, it has its earthly benefits. Salvation gives you the opportunity to know the truth that comes from God which saves your life – time, money, resources, body and energies from the things that would ruin you.
“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life” – John 3:16.
If you wouldn’t end up perished in your relationship, isn’t it better to believe in Jesus and allow His gift of salvation prevent you from perishing?

If wasted investment and relationship won’t be your fate, buy the truth that comes from God. When you know these truth, you’ll trust and wait on God before you’d venture into any relationship lest you venture into the one that will ruin you. By yourself and with all the experiences you have, you can’t know the right person. Stop wasting your life and destiny on a trial and error relationship! Peter today, Mary tomorrow. When will you stop?

Only the wise ones will have ears to hear the truth. Save your money, time, resources and energies from been wasted in a relationship that would end up frustrating your life.

Conserve your all to seek God’s face, know His will and allow His gift of salvation transform you from within to without so that you can know His perfect will when it comes to choosing a life partner.
Are you in any of these relationship? Share your experience and also quit the relationship.