Purity is a lost culture in today’s world. Lot’s of people are not bothered about it in their everyday life that is why they live their lives recklessly. Any relationship where immorality isn’t practiced sometimes become difficult to keep because many believe that’s the only sustainable means to making relationship work.
Premarital and extramarital sex has become a norm in many relationship. Some men believe it’s a way of expressing love while their female counterparts are of the notion that without it love cannot grow. Some men cannot do without it while some women can’t keep a relationship without it.
Some people who do not cross the line into having sexual intercourse ended up practicing the likes of kissing, petting, caressing, romance (sexual plays) as a means of ‘lubricating’ their relationship. Are these want God wants in our relationship? Can’t relationship no longer thrive without sexual immoralities?
Here are the reasons why sexual purity cannot be achieved in many relationship even amongst Christians.
1. Practicing Lust
Lust is a carnal desire that deals with fulfilling the pleasure the flesh craves for. Apart from the fact that God gave us commandments and brought Jesus to save us from sin, the human flesh naturally desires the things that are pleasurable to it.
The desire to kiss, pet, caress, indulge in erotic conversations, send nude pictures, stay in dark corners, bear hug or indulge in sexual intercourse are lustful activities. When you desire it and conceive it, you’ve automatically sin against God. However, sin would bring up death (separation from God or the loss of life).
You cannot maintain a pure relationship if what you practice in your relationship is lust. And if your relationship isn’t pure, one of you would become a victim.
2. Seeking pleasure rather than purpose
I earlier said the flesh loves pleasure rather than to be engaged in productive activities. When all you do in your relationship is to go clubbing, drink and smoke, keep boyfriends or girlfriends, chat for hours without meaningful discourse; sexual purity is far from such relationship.
You cannot seek pleasure and expect to retain sexual purity in your relationship. Remember, pleasure kills faster than hard work because your cumulative years of pleasure would amount to a life of vanity.
Ask old men and women who wasted their youthful life on pleasures, they will tell you it’s a life of waste and total regret. Pursue purpose and you’ll to a large extent maintain sexual purity.
3. Imbibing the culture of the world
Christians are living in the world, but it’s so sad that the world is now living in them. Lot’s of worldly activities has been branded or coined into their activities. It’s difficult to differentiate between a child of God and a lover of the world because there are no disparity between how they dress, talk, behave or manage their relationship.
Many Christian brothers and sisters are now behaving like the world even in their relationship that is meant to be godly. Many had been made to believe that relationships portrayed in TV, movies or soap operas are the best pattern to adopt in theirs.
Why would believers be demanding for pregnancy before marriage? Is it the culture of Christ or the rudiments of this world?
You cannot do it the world’s way and expect it to end up in God’s way. You can’t do the things of the world and expect God to be your Alpha. Imbibing the culture of the world in your relationship will make you trash sexual purity in your relationship.
I write these to those who choose to please God in their relationship. Let no one, I repeat, let nobody fool you into believing that “it doesn’t mean”, “everyone is doing it” or “it’s not too bad”. God will never compromise His standards for man’s. Engaging in sexual immoralities in your relationship would give the devil an unhindered access into your life.
Remember, the devil (thief) comes not but for to steal, kill and destroy. ‘One chance’ of sexual immoralities would give him a blank cheque to rewrite the order of your life. Believers beware, he’s fighting tooth and nail to ensure that more people are doomed for life.
If you don’t pursue sexual purity, you’ll end up in immorality. Don’t let your relationship put you in eternal damnation. Flee youthful lust. Flee all appearances of evil and embrace sexual purity. A word is enough for the wise!
(c) Mayowa Adeniyi 2015
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