There are many factors people consider when it comes to marriage and whom to marry. Many would prefer going for things like the ‘container’ (physical features) while some would go for ‘content’ (innate potentials). Things like how tall, rich, dark and handsome he is or how physically endowed she is are purely container features.
Whereas few people would go for things like being God-fearing, hospitable, matured, respectful and having a confirmation from God on whom they want to marry.
It is not a crime to consider what you can see in your intended spouse but it shouldn’t be your basis for making the decision on who to marry. Many had looked at the present or married for the present but were disappointed in the future when those things they saw no longer exist or had taken a different shape in the future.
Are you making plans on who to marry? Look into the future rather than marry for the present. Only a myopic man or lady would marry for what they can see. But in case you don’t know what it takes to look into the future, learn the how-to.
1. You can’t see the future if you don’t have one
Marriage is not a short term project or commitment, it’s a lifelong relationship. It’s not possible to see the future in your intended spouse if you don’t have one.
More often than none, I usually tell singles, get a life before you start looking for who to marry. It is your purpose you’ve known that would determine the kind of person you’d marry whose future you’ve seen.
Do you think that most women that agreed to marry those ministers of God or men who became great were ordinary women? No! They weren’t great when they approached but their wives had a life and they knew that their intended spouse has a future.
2. You cannot see the future if you’re conversant of the present
I often pity ladies especially who had a long list of what their husbands to be must have before they’d ever agree to marry him. He must have a three bedroom apartment, ride a car, earn good salary and so on before they accept his proposal. May you discard this orientation before you reach menopausal age.
What makes you think a ready-made spouse will still be made in the future? What if the tides turn over and he lost all? Don’t marry based on ephemeral qualities but rather see prospects. It’s better to start small and grow big with a man that has a bright future than to grow with a man that is made and cannot manage his growth.
3. The future isn’t determined in the future but in the present
How can you know a man that has a future? He doesn’t dream alone, talk about it or chorus it often but he orders his future now. Don’t be deceived by men who are flattering and would paint a future they don’t have.
A man that has a future is a man who is working and walking in line with his purpose and not a pleasure seeker. A man of purpose doesn’t spend hours watching season movies, updating BBM dps or chatting on social media but he’s on course for the fulfillment of his purpose.
4. You cannot see the future if you’ve not known God
“Write the vision, make it plain that he may run that reads it”
There’s a difference between the future God has for a man and the future man has for himself. Ladies, it’s only God that can make you see the future He has for a man but if you’re far from God, you’ll pursue ephemeral things and miss your husband.
Submit your life and emotions to God so that only a man that has a future can find it. Be sold out to God so that you can clearly differentiate between a man of purpose and one who comes for pleasure.
If by luck you marry a man with a future, you’ll destroy that future because you’re not prepared for it. Men, you need to be careful, marry a woman that can support your future and not that which would fit into your life at present.<>
That a woman knows how to cook, even if she’s God-fearing doesn’t doesn’t mean she’ll be a suitable help meet in the future. Prayerfully choose for the future rather than carnally choose for the present.
Space wouldn’t permit me to write more but I want you to have a change of orientation when it comes to choosing whom to marry. Without God, knowing your purpose, having a future and doing away with the things you see at present; you can never see the future in whom you want to marry. Only a futuristic marriage, ordained by God can stand the test of time.
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