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5 Ways To Identify A Matured Partner Maturity is one of the building blocks in having a great relationship. Its importance cannot be under-estimated if we will have a successful one. For relationships to thrive better, maturity is needed by both parties before they can be successful in their relationship. It determines how love is expressed, understanding, trust, honesty and many other factors that is needed. Many relationship failed because one of the parties involved lack the needed level of maturity to handle the demands of the relationship. Maturity is not a function of age. Age is just a numeric value that appreciates as years go by. But not so to maturity. You can be old as Methuselah, yet lacking in maturity – thinking and acting like a baby. Here are some areas to look out for a matured partner. Maturity is measured on the basis of one’s development of specific areas in one’s life. These areas are not limited to the mental, social, spiritual, financial and emotional aspect of one’s life. The following areas are what you should examine before you consider a person for relationship. Had lots of people know this, they wouldn’t have fallen victims of relationship mess or trauma. MENTAL DEVELOPMENT Before you say “I do” or accept a relationship proposal, you must check if he/she is mentally able to cope with the issues of the  relationship, whether marital or friendship. We need a level of mental power to understand ourselves and our partner. Wisdom is the simple form of mental power. This is why we need to fully prepare before we accept or go into any relationship. You must study the person in question by placing several test on them. How will they react to your relationship with the opposite sex? Can they study your emotions or mood to know when you are lively or dull and would understand? Will they react negatively to rumour or your past? Are they bossy, possessive or nag a lot? You need wisdom to handle all these. However, the level of your mental power will determine your ability to manage your relationship well despite the issues your partner may have. SOCIAL EXPOSURE We have varying degree of social exposure based on our background. Social maturity is the ability to relate well with all kinds of people. How well you relate with different kinds of people is a function of your social maturity. On the other hand, it is good to be social but a moderate form is needed since man is a social creature. Being social helps to ease  the tension and stress of life. If a person is not socially matured, they will complain of your relationship, association and level of exposure. Socially immature people are too spiritual or too social. There must be a balance between spirituality and sociability, work and sociability. Relationship is best enjoyed when there is a balance between work, being social, spiritual and other areas of our life. SPIRITUAL STRENGTH Man is a spirit being who lives in the body and has a soul. Many people will shy away from this form of maturity when selecting a partner. There are some issues that happens in life that are beyond human comprehension in the physical realm. These issues cannot be addressed medically, psychologically or physically. A matured partner is needed to be able to discern and provide spiritual solutions to this type of issue. A spiritually matured partner will take his relationship with God with more seriousness than any human relationship. Any partner that does not have a personal relationship with God will have a close tie with the devil. There is no issue as being neutral. However, going to church is not a symbol of spiritual maturity or joining church groups, but a personal encounter with God which will manifest in his/her character is one of the means to identify a matured partner. FINANCIAL STABILITY How do you identify a financially stable partner? Financial maturity can be identified in a partner by how much of independence they have regarding money issues. They could either be an income earner or a business owner. How they manage what they earn and how they spend it depends on their level of maturity. There are two ways by which money can be used. Money is either invested or wasted. A matured person will invest his/her money on worthwhile ventures such as giving, investing and planning. On the other hand, money can be wasted on extravagant spending such as on pleasure seeking activities. A financially matured person will not spend more than he/she earns and would also plan for the future. EMOTIONAL MATURITY We are all emotional creatures. However, the level of our emotional development varies. What would make Mrs. A cry may not move Mrs. B to tears. This is not because she lacks empathy, but it is just how she handled the issue that differs. This is the basis of emotional maturity. Your ability to handle issues that affects the mind wisely is a sign of maturity. If a partner is not matured in this aspect, they will be aggressive, nagging, easily angered, physically abusive, depressed and gets frustrated easily. You need someone that can shoulder your emotional issues and handle is own without having a negative impact on him/her. How do you measure up to maturity? First you need experience from life or others around you. Idea is different from experience. Experience is what you allow yourself to understand and imbibe. But idea is just a little knowledge you have about a thing. Secondly, you need wisdom. Wisdom makes a person wise and matured. Hence, the superior wisdom that is needed is that which comes from God. We need divine wisdom to run the affairs of our life. God’s wisdom is found in the pages of the scripture. So be a friend of God and the bible. If you are not matured, it will be very difficult for you to identify a matured person. So work on yourself. Improve your social balance, financial independence, emotional life, spiritual strength and increase your mental power. These can be achieved when you learn from others. Identify the good you want to learn from their lives and imbibe it. Read good books and listen to spirit filled messages