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Choice of Partner 3 (Concluding part) Some basic factors to consider before accepting a proposal or before proposing continues: 3. Who is he/she? You need to know something about this person, that is why friendship is important because it is when you're friends that you can know some things about him/her. Check out for the level of maturity, how does he/she respond to quarrel, his/her relationship with the parent and others, intellectual compatibility, how does he/she handle finances. If you are a spender, then he/she must be a planner. Make sure you both do not have the same weakness, he/she should be able to make up for your weakness. 4. Communication skills Is he/she the type that don't get in touch with you well? What is his/her opinion about communication? Is he/she comfortable around you to discuss his/her fears, worries, past and future ambitions. Listen, communication is an important ingredient in any relationship that needs to be taken so serious. 5. Love You need to be in love, I really mean you have to be in love genuinely, not compelled or coarse into loving the person but a real love. Do not accept a proposal out of pity, don't beg to be in a relationship because if you beg him/her in, you will have to beg him/her to stay with you forever. Love is not a maybe thing, you know it if you're in love. Do you love this person well, look into the nearest 10/15 years if Christ tarry, will you still be loving this same person like now? Are you loving out of desperation? Don't go into relationship desperate, take time to grow in love, do not be in a hurry. Once you 'fall in love' there is no way you can fall out of love because it will stay in your mind, heart and soul for the rest of your life, so think well before you say or stay in love. There is more to love than the feeling, it is a decision! A decision to be with that person good or bad and for the rest of your life. 6. Are you ready? You must understand that relationship is not only about receiving, it is also about giving. Ladies, what do you have to offer the man, it not your beauty that will pour into your children, it is what you have inside, when you have something to offer, to make a difference in the man's life, then, he is actually favoured from the Lord. Men, are you man enough? I'm talking about maturity now not your six packs chest, can you handle her past? A true relationship is having someone who accepts your past, supports your present, loves you and encourages your future. Are you ready for the responsibilities ahead? (Not only financially) Marriage is not a competition, take your time, be in love, groom your relationship, nurse your ambitions, because FOREVER is pretty too long to be UNHAPPY!!! Confession: I shall not regret my marriage Prayer: Help me oh Lord to get it right while choosing a life partner; help me not to miss your plans for my life in marriage in Jesus name