Love and feelings are so intertwined that it takes wisdom and your discernability to differentiate between the two. Feelings is needed to sustain love in your relationship but it must not be the basis for loving a person.
Are you confused?
Feelings emanates from your emotions likewise a measure of it is needed in love. If you don’t have a liking for your spouse or your partner you’re engaged to, your relationship will be affected. If someone takes the the feelings that is meant for your partner then it would have an adverse effect on your relationship.
What are the things you won’t likely be told about feelings?
1.It could seem as love
On the surface, feelings could be mistaken as love when it’s mutual and it hasn’t been exposed to the turbulent issues of life. Singles needs to be careful with their emotions. That it seem as if you two gets along easily doesn’t mean you’re in love. Your ‘love’ could be a product of your emotional attraction. When the storms of life befalls you or your partner, will feelings still hold its profession of ‘I love you?’ Get this straight, love has to do with a conscious effort of being committed to one person, remaining faithful and to make their life better, whether in friendship or marriage.
It’s not so with feelings because it develops in no time.
2.It doesn’t take long to develop
Within one week or month you meet him or her and your feelings are mutual and deep, you’ll almost conclude that you’re in love if care isn’t taken. Feelings grows in no time when you two mutually discuss emotional issues and intimate matters with each other despite the fact that you met recently. Don’t think you have found love if it occurs to you in your relationship because change is inevitable.
3.It can (will) change
The tendency for feelings to change as time goes on in life is certain. If it’s not genuine love that brought you together, feelings can be changed if it doesn’t have anything to sustain it such as premarital sex, sexual immoralities or erotic conversations. I do not encourage all of that because there are better things that can sustain a relationship other than that. If your feelings is based on your partner’s physical attraction or personality impression, what happens if all of that changes in the future? Evaluate what fosters your liking for your partner. Is it because you chat often or see often? Communication also have a tendency to sublime your feelings when it’s not consistent in your relationship.
4.It occurs when there’s frequent communication
Can you compare how intimate they would be when a group of lovers talk three times everyday and the other only talk rarely on weekly basis? Feelings is created when you chat often, call frequently or exchange text messages sporadically. This would create an attraction in your hearts and you’ll think you’re in love or have known all about the person. Do you think the feelings would still be there if you don’t get to talk often? Try it and see if your emotional connection would be there if you don’t talk for one week! It’s the more you talk or chat often than feelings deepen in your minds even when you don’t see.
5.You can have feelings for someone you’ve not seen or spoken to
Yes, it’s possible! Have you noticed how connected you are to the opposite sex you chat often on social media when emotions is involved? You can have feelings for someone you haven’t seen physically but only on virtual platforms when you chat often, call frequently and do things that would create emotional attraction. Feelings is so powerful that who you’ve not spoken to before, you’re already attracted to them because you have a liking for their physical build or personality. Feelings is the bedrock of love at first sight. Much has been said on this issue of feelings. Work on your mind and don’t commit your heart to love when you’re immature or ignorant of the demands of love.
Feelings can lead to infatuation or lust when it’s misapplied. A final word for singles: guard your heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life. Love wouldn’t desire sex or sexual immoralities when you’re not married. Don’t let your feelings mess up your life.
And engaged singles or married couples should also guard their heart with diligence. Don’t seek emotional support elsewhere outside your relationship. It’s destructive!
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