Everybody is in a relationship. You’ll sometimes wonder why do you have more singles around? Funny though! There are some people who are either in a serious relationship leading to marriage, a relationship heading no where or a relationship created to pursue similar interest.
Irrespective of what brought you together, there are two motives to which a relationship is created, whether for marriage, friendship without ‘benefits’ or ‘just friends’.
Some people entered into a relationship to find or feel loved but in the long run, it nosedive into lust. You must check the motive behind your relationship – is it love or lust?
How do I know the motive behind my relationship?
Lust
If what brought you two together is based on material benefits, infatuation or certain conditions which is of no lasting value, then your relationship is hinged on lust. However, it will hurt either of you.
Lust is sometimes having a strong desire for sex. Activities like petting, immoral conversation, kissing, fondling and caressing done in a relationship without been married will breed fornication.
Although it’s not limited to sex alone. When a particular thing in your partner becomes an object of affection, then you’re in a ‘lustful’ relationship. This could be meeting financial obligations or finding emotional support to lean on. However, love is unconditional.
Love
Why am I in a relationship with him/her? If you’re not in for sacrifice, commitment or bringing out the best in your friend, then your motive is not love.
Know this, God is love. That He gave us His only begotten Son, Jesus, depicted His pattern of love to us. Love doesn’t cheat, abuse, victimize or humiliate who it loves.
Anybody that doesn’t bring out the best in you or contributes anything of lasting value to your life doesn’t love you but lust after something in you. Discover it!
But we’re going to get married now? Yes, marriage could either be built on lust or love. The foundation of your relationship matters most to its outcome and duration. That you’re getting married isn’t an avenue for committing sexual sin, being compelled to meet certain financial obligations or exploiting your partner. Love has to be mutual.
Have you asked yourself and your friend why you’re in a relationship? Doing this will help you two to know what you’re likely to expect from the relationship.
The outcome of a ‘lustful’ relationship isn’t anything good other than fulfilling carnal desires. Consequences like abuse, immoralities, heart break, jittery and the likes aren’t far fetched from a lust conceived relationship.
However, when God who is love is at the center of your relationship, expect joy, peace, happiness and a fulfillment of a worthy purpose to be achieved. Even if you’ll not be married, you enjoy the God-kind of relationship. I challenge you to seek this kind of relationship rather than the latter.
If only you can ask yourself this question and know the real motives behind your relationship, there won’t be cases like regrets, abuse or emotional trauma resulting from a wrong relationship.
Can you take the bold step to ask yourself and your partner this truth revealing question? Make a call or send a sms, you’ll thank me for the response. Remember, if it is not love, it will surely be lust.
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