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A Mother’s Advise To Her Disobedient Daughter On Sex And Relationship “It’s a pity that this happened to you despite all I told you. You brought shame to us, yourself and our name. “You went ahead to keep a boyfriend, you lost your virginity to him and now he made you pregnant”, mother  nodded her head in pity. “When was the last time you had your menstrual period?”. Mother asked in fury. “I’m sorry mom, it was a mistake”, she replied sobbing bowing her head in shame. “Well, thank God the thought of abortion didn’t come to your mind. Whether it was a week old or one month, abortion doesn’t make you unpregnant. It only makes you a mother of a dead child and the blood of the life that was terminated would cry for vengeance. Now that this has happened, you have to learn from your mistakes so that you don’t repeat it again. If I were to act like other mothers, I’d have thrown you out of the house to go and meet that boyfriend who made you pregnant. What you want has now turned to what you regret”, she spoke in annoyance.
For this to be a lesson to you and everyone out there, I’ll still advice you on what to do. There’s hope for you because life doesn’t end when you make mistakes like this but it’ll only affect some things in your life. “Okay mom”, she heaved with a sigh of relief. 1. Don’t hate yourself, what has happened can not be reversed You had better not wished it happened because it’ll give you sleepless nights if you start hating yourself. This is not the time to trade blame games or throw a worry party. You have to face the music and make the best out of it. Worry will only get you depressed and could end up giving you a trauma.
In a matter of time, you’ll be fine and become they lady you’re meant to be. Don’t give up on your dreams and purpose in life, they’ll only halt for the time you have to get over this. 2. Be strong, let your experience teach you rather than ignore what happened and repeat it again Many ladies don’t learn from their mistakes, this is why keep falling into relationship mess and rising out of it oftentimes. If they had aborted the pregnancy, they’ll still go back to their vomit when the pain and trauma of the abortion cease.
It is only a fool that won’t learn from her experience and repeat such again. When you’re back on your feet again, don’t get so loose with men both emotionally and sexually.
It doesn’t matter if he wants your hand in marriage. Be strong and learn. It doesn’t even mean if everything indicates that he’s the right man for you in marriage. Be wise so you’re not twice beaten and four times shy.
3. Love yourself and see the bright side of life
When something bad happens to you in life, dealing with the situation with a negative approach cannot give you victory over it. Two negative currents cannot produce electrical power.
“I hope you understand?” mother asked.
“Yes, ma”, she made a deep sigh.
And it is only when you love yourself that you can overcome. If you fail to see the bright side of life and love yourself, you won’t become a better person.
Appreciate who you are and don’t think condemnation and guilt will do you anything good in life. See yourself getting over this, be positive and focus in becoming the better you you want to be. 4. Get closer to God
At this stage of your life, you need God more than anyone. If you had  gotten intimate with Him, this wouldn’t have happened in the first place. There’s a difference between knowing God and getting so intimate with Him. Take time to fellowship with Him because He’s the best comforter. Study your bible often, pray, fellowship with the brethren and love Him more than anyone. Walk in the light of the truth you discover in His word. The closer you are to Him, the stronger you become and the better He gives your life a meaning. 5. Pick up your pieces and move on Don’t worry over spilled milk because it’s a futile effort. Move on with your life after you have gotten over this stage. Pick up the piece. Don’t hate yourself or the man that put you in this state, you’ll only suffer more in silence. Forgive him, although it’s difficult to do so but it’s the best, so you don’t allow anger, bitterness, resentment and ‘unforgiveness’ hold you in bondage. Lack of forgiveness is dangerous to you physical and spiritual health. Know what you did or ignored that made you a victim now so that you can avoid it for the rest of your life. I love you daughter, I feel pained to see this happened but I can’t disown you. Just like the prodigal son, I’ll accept you and I know you’re coming out strong from these. * * * There are two sides to knowledge in life: it’s either you learn from it and don’t fall into its bondage or you fall into bondage and embrace the truth you once neglect. Treasure the truth you know about sex and relationship so that you don’t learn truths from the consequences you put yourself into when the hands of time cannot be reversed.